Gen Y in the Workplace Webinar: A Smorgasbord of Thoughts

I'm excited to share that I was the guest speaker on a Webinar last week called "Generations in the Workplace: Gen Y in Action." Whether you are Gen Y or you work with us (I think that covers almost everyone!), hopefully you will find value in the recordings. I give one key caveat: this doesn't not apply universally to everyone (we are all unique, after all) and many of these concepts could apply to people in other generations too. As one participant said, "This webinar is a must listen for every American CEO and his or her team of managers. Jenny articulates very clearly and with good humor, the unique qualities that define the seventy million members of Gen-Y. Jenny provides a  detailed and very perceptive key to the hearts and minds of the generation that is currently defining the cutting edge of our global economy."

On a Gen Y side note, it's that time again! Ryan Stephens is collecting votes for his August Top Gen Y Blogs ballot. Last time I was incredibly honored (and surprised!) to be voted #6. Submit a ballot if you are feeling so inclined - no pressure to vote for me, just a great chance to highlight and discover a list of great Gen Y blogs. To submit a ballot, you will select five blogs and email the list to ryanstephensmarketing(at)gmail.com, no later than July 29.

Back to the webinar: it is posted in two segments, in which I cover the following topics:

Gen Y in Action (Part One - 20 min):

  • Work styles unique to Gen Y
  • How the extracurricular-focus that got us into college manifests in the workplace
  • Shortcomings of Gen Y employees (with caveats!)
  • How to effectively manage Gen Y; Biggest mistakes managers make when managing Gen Y
  • Priorities for Gen Y: integrating work and life
  • How the economy has impacted Gen Y's attitudes toward work and their careers
  • One reason that making it through the rough economy is a good thing for us
  • Social Media: what's in, what's out

Gen Y in Action - Q&A from Participants (Part Two - 15 min):

  • Don't these attitudes apply to all generations? Or is it that they are more extreme for Gen Y?
  • What if someone from Gen Y isn't feeling included or engaged at work?
  • Does multi-tasking negatively affect the quality of Gen Y employees' work?
  • What advice do you have for a Gen Y employee who wants to maximize their work experience before going to business school?
  • What is Gen Y's greatest weakness in the workplace today?
  • How does Gen Y view diversity issues?
  • What do you think Gen Y will be like as managers?
  • Tell us about your book!

During the webinar, I referenced the following resources (click here for my highlights/summary of each article):

Dr. Lynn Vavreck on Embracing Uncertainty, Living Life Between Great Moments

Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Don't search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer. –Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

Just when you thought you had escaped commencement speech season! I am a little late to post this, but the content is truly timeless. This post is an excerpt of a graduation speech that one of my favorite people, my professor and mentor Lynn Vavreck, delivered to this year's graduating Political Science students at UCLA.

Whether you graduated this year, five years ago, or 20 years ago, Lynn's advice about embracing uncertainty and living life "inbetween moments" is touching and powerful. Lynn has always been an inspiration to me - she is the reason I took a leave of absence from UCLA to work at the start-up company without much of a clue about what I'd be doing. She believed in me and taught me many, many things about life and work (including how to cook a sweet potato).

I am also VERY excited to announce that Lynn's book, The Message Matters: The Economy and Presidential Campaigns, comes out today! For one of the graphs in the book, my friend and I spent a summer analyzing decades of New York Times archives on microfilm, so you can definitely say the book is thoroughly researched!

Excerpt from Dr. Lynn Vavreck's UCLA Commencement Address

What no one tells you about graduation day, is that it is, ironically, one of the least uncertain days you’ll ever have.

Well, sure, there’s that whole “future” thing out in front of you.  And, yes, the job market may be making it difficult to know what is coming next. But today – today you know what you’ve accomplished and what it means to those around you.

You know what you spent the last four or more years working for.  You know who you are today – you are a college graduate.  And you know how that makes you feel: good, proud, satisfied. The truth is, though, that most of the rest of your days will not have this clarity.

You will leave school confident that you will succeed in what you do – and so you will.  And you will gather accomplishments and responsibilities along the way. You will get a job and then get promoted; and maybe one day you will become someone’s boss. You will meet interesting, engaging people; maybe you will marry one of these people, and buy a house or two – combine your assets, maybe start a family. You will lose people you care about, sometimes slowly and quietly, and other times dramatically and profoundly. And the constant throughout all of this will not be the clarity, like today, but in fact just the opposite; the constant will be the uncertainty you feel.

No matter how much we have taught you, no matter how much I tell you that science, discovery, and imagination will save us as a society – unless you learn to love the unanswered questions in your life the tension between what you want for yourself and what others expect of you – none of your knowledge and accomplishments will matter. No amount of imagination and reason will save you if you do not know how to make yourself happy.

And to me that means one very specific thing: learning to live with and embrace the everyday tensions that your life will bring to you. Life is a series of pushes and pulls – and most of us never end up on one side or the other – we just live somewhere in the middle. You want to do one thing, but have to do another.  You know you should feel one way, but you actually feel the opposite.  We live somewhere in the middle.

But the middle can be good. It can be very good, but you have to stop worrying about figuring out whether you should be pushing or pulling at any given moment. Live the uncertainty, live the questions, live in the middle and love it.

The key to doing this is figuring out what sustains you. How do you make yourself happy? What will it take to get you out of bed in the morning after you’ve been up late working and all your suits are at the cleaners and there’s nothing for breakfast and you’re big presentation is less than hour away? How do you live with failure and still believe you can succeed? Most frightening of all, what will you do when you achieve your dream, when you reach your goal, when the thing that is supposed to bring you ultimate joy has been accomplished? What will sustain you then? Too many people learn the hard way that achieving your dream isn’t the same as achieving happiness. They find they are still living in the middle with no idea whether to push or pull.

So let me return to where I started:  I should probably tell you that no idea is too small and no ambition too great…that you can achieve your dreams.  But I fear that sets you up for disappointment, because life isn’t about days like today – life is about all the days in between days like today.

Enduring happiness comes from embracing the on-going push and pull of typical days – From finding beauty in the mundane, From celebrating the small moments of contentedness, From understanding that 100,000 “pretty good” days is better than 6 “amazing” days.

Life happens in the middle. In the middle of the push & pull and in the middle of all the truly celebratory moments.

Everybody Needs a Keepers File

This puppy has nothing to do with my post, but hes definitely a keeper! I may be stating the obvious on this one. The painfully obvious. But it's so important to me that I feel compelled to make sure you are in the loop too.

It's called a Keepers file, and everybody needs one. You'll know a "keeper" when you see it - it's an email, tweet or otherwise glowing note about you that makes you smile from ear-to-ear. The kind that makes your whole day, week or month. Keepers are like gold nuggets that never lose their value. You'll know it's a Keeper because every time you read it you feel energized, confident and/or appreciated.

Your Keepers deserve a home. They are proof of how hard you've worked, the impact you've had -- or maybe they just make you laugh. I began saving Keepers a few years ago when I started training new hires at Google (thanks to a tip from a more seasoned co-worker). As the emails came in, I would label them "Keepers" and read through the email folder on rainy days when I needed a pick-me-up.

Now I've figured out a better system - every time a Keeper comes in, I copy and paste it into a Google Doc with a note about who it came from. WOW. What a difference the new system has made! Emails were a little tough to sift through - the Google doc is like a Keepers file on a quad-shot latte.

I don't read Keepers to be vain, and I don't re-read them all that often. I read them when I need a reminder about the difference I made in someone else's life, or an accomplishment I am proud of. I read them when I've forgotten that I have so much to be thankful for. I hope you are doing yourself the favor of saving Keepers too.

Practice the Golden Rule of Dating - Guest Post by Jeremy Orr

Editor's Note: This post is written by Jeremy Orr with collaboration and editing from me. Jeremy does not have a blog (yet!) but you can follow his often witty and generally hilarious tweets here. Jeremy is a good friend I met in high school through the CA Youth & Government program. If you want to put a face to the name, check-out this embarrassingly old picture of us (Photo was taken with my good friend Lauren Jew in high school; note that I practically have blond hair!). For a more current photo, check out this picture from our recent sailing adventure, in which we further developed many of the ideas in this post.

Just for Fun (Photo by Fuffer on Flickr)

Practice the Golden Rule of Dating

The golden rule of dating is the same golden rule you learned in grammar school: treat others the way you want to be treated. It may sound obvious and cliche, but based on some of my recent experiences, let me provide a little refresher on common courtesies when it comes to dating or being in a relationship.

Dating 2.0

Dating today seems much more casual than in decades past. Technology - whether online profiles, cell phones, emails, chat or voicemail - allows for a certain distance while also keeping us conveniently connected. The "traditional" methods of dating have gone out the window. Meeting someone in a bar seems so passé. And meeting a friend of a friend is awkward - if it doesn’t work out, you could lose a friend in the process! As much as we may hate to admit it, online dating has become a more viable option, especially considering how much information people openly share online these days. Online dating may be less stigmatized, but still no one wants to admit that they actually do it!

The rub of dating for our generation has become anonymity. In my experience, people seem to use technology to stretch the truth (and worse) when it comes to dating. I can understand it but I cannot condone it.

The Truth and Nothing but the Truth

Here’s why I understand stretching the truth or pretending to be someone you are not: you are dating, you want to get out into the world (cyber or otherwise) and you want to present your best self. You want to obtain the best possible match. Let's face it, almost everyone wants to date up. Everyone wants to find someone that is the best for them. You want to see what that magic mirror version of yourself can fetch on the open market. Not what your "I forgot to shave and brush my teeth" self can muster. In that sense, I understand it. It happens to the best of us. However, that does not mean it is okay to lie.

For those of you doing online dating: are you 5’9? Tell people you are 5’9 and not 5’11. People are going to notice those two inches. People lie about their height or weight before meeting and seem to think that is okay. It is not. It is misrepresenting yourself. If you are dishonest before you meet someone, it does not matter if you think your wonderful personality and stunning wit will win them over. They will be automatically turned off by your little fib.

Jeremy's Obligatory Personal Anecdote (OPA): I met a nice girl online once. She was very cute in her profile pics. We shared some emails in which we shared some common interests and I thought she was funny, playful, and sharp. Three things I like. We made plans to meet for coffee. I got there early and was excited. She showed up and was (now I am no carnival barker) 60 pounds heavier than her pictures. I am not opposed to a girl who is bigger, especially if she has a great attitude and owns her look. However, I felt lied to. I felt like I was intentionally deceived. I was polite, enjoyed my beverage, but no matter how well our meeting went, it could not make up for the initial misrepresentation.

To Thine Own Self Be True

Just be comfortable with who you are and what you do. Know what you like and what you seek in another person. Ideally you want to find someone who likes to do what you like to do, not someone who likes what you like them to do (and vice versa). Don't lie to make yourself seem interesting or more attractive. If the other person isn't interested in you for you, let them go. This can be hard to do, especially if the other person represents an idealized version of yourself - someone or something you wish you were. But do it anyway. Move on. The things you expect from other people, like being in shape, you must also do yourself. It is okay to put your best self out there, but be honest about it.

Be upfront and let people know what you are looking for - that is the only way you will find it. For some of us, we need to stop and take the time to think about what it is that we want. Be honest with yourself. Are you looking for a long term relationship or just a good time? Are you in a relationship that you know is a dead-end? These are things we have to take the time to think about. Understandably, sometimes we are looking for different things at different moments in our lives. We are complex beings. But if we can't understand ourselves and what we want, then how can we ever expect anyone else to understand us? Take the time to find out what it is you are looking for.

The End of the Road

Honesty needs to happen in all phases of dating, not just before you meet and while getting to know someone. It is also important to be honest if a relationship is coming to an end. If you aren’t interested in someone, it can be a difficult phone call to make: sorry, this isn't working for me and I want to let you know.

When do you "owe" someone this call? If you have just gone out on a first date and it didn't go well, do you need to call and let them know? If it would be awkward without a call, you need to make the call. Perhaps you find they appreciate your candor and you will feel better about yourself. You will be presenting a positive you into the dating realm that you can feel good about. This self-confidence will ultimately help you. Besides, don’t you appreciate it if someone is honest with you? Yes, it sucks to know that the person doesn’t like you, but at least you know. When you think all is well and that person just drops off the face of the earth it can be somewhat concerning. Make the difficult phone call; you’ll be glad you did.

Bottom line: if you are doing something and wouldn't want it done to you, you shouldn't do it. So as cliche as it sounds, we could all use a reminder to go by the golden rule when dating: treat other people the way you want to be treated. Walk around with your head held high knowing you are someone who dates with honesty, integrity, and respect. Join the club, I’ll have patches made for our sleeves. We can even meet for coffee once a month to share scar stories from break-up phone calls gone awry.

Unplugged: A Quick Video to Say Hello

It's been a while since you last heard from me...there is a good reason, I promise! This video is a short note to say hello, tell you I am still alive, and give you a quick peek at what I've been up to. Now back to my margarita... :)

P.S. As for the shaky camera work? I think my family and I have had too much coffee this week!

WSJ: Best Online Tools for Personal Finance

Earlier this month, the Wall Street Journal published a special insert called "The Best Online Tools for Personal Finance." I have shared a few tools on this blog in the past, but wanted to make sure I pass along a few more gems from the article for your financial management arsenal. (The Best of) WSJ's Best Online Tools for Personal Finance:

Article: Best and worst advice for recent grads from prominent experts

A personal favorite not listed in the article: Kiva.org - Kiva allows you to finance micro-loans for entrepreneurs around the globe (for as low as $25). When your loan is repaid, you can either get the money back or reinvest with someone else. A brilliant system if you ask me. (See my previous post: A Lesson in Micro-Credit and Loans that Change Lives)

Am I (and by proxy, the Wall Street Journal) missing any good online money management tools? Let me know!

Book Notes: The War of Art

"Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do. The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it, and the more important it is to the growth of our soul. If you didn't love the project that is terrifying you, you wouldn't feel anything. The opposite of love isn't hate; it's indifference."

-Steven Pressfield, The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles

From time to time I post notes on this blog from special books that I believe will really help people think about their lives in a new or different way.

I heard about The War of Art while reading Chris Guillebeau's E-Book, 279 Days to Overnight Success. I saw the title and subtitle and without reading a single review or even the book description, I bought it. I was that desperate.

I hadn't worked on my book in months, and it was eating away at me. As Pressfield describes it, "A low-grade misery pervades everything." I thought I needed to figure myself out before continuing to write. After reading this book, I realized that while self-reflection is helpful, there are times that it is just plain procrastination wrapped up in a pretty bow. Or in my case, a complicated one.

What I loved about this book was the way it helped me frame my resistance, a sneaky form of inner critic that can seem very helpful at times. While this book is focused on writing, it applies to a much broader spectrum of efforts and touches upon procrastination, self-doubt, professionalism and fears that arise as we strive to fulfill our true purpose.

I believe we are all meant to be creative (check-out The Artist's Way for the definitive book on this topic). To be creative is to be human, to be fulfilled. Pressfield helps break-down some of the common obstacles to creativity - he helps you get out of your own way.

Just like my last round of book notes, I preface this with a GET READY FOR A LONG POST! disclaimer. This book may not speak to everyone the way it spoke to me - but I hope that those who do read the full notes will come away with something truly valuable. Want to share books? Add me on Good Reads

The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles Steven Pressfield

Book One: Resistance - Defining the Enemy

There's a secret that real writers know that wannabe writers don't, and the secret is this: it's not the writing part that's hard. What's hard is sitting down to write. What keeps us from sitting down is Resistance.

To yield to Resistance deforms our spirit. It stunts us and makes us less than we are and were born to be.

Does Resistance have to cripple and disfigure our lives before we wake up to its existence?

Any act that rejects immediate gratification in favor of long-term growth, health, or integrity will elicit Resistance.

Resistance is Invisible: We experience it as an energy field radiating from a work-in-potential. It's a repelling force. It's negative. Its aim is to shove us away, distract us, prevent us from doing our work.

Resistance will tell you anything to keep you from doing your work. It will perjure, fabricate, falsify; seduce, bully, cajole.

Rule of thumb: The more important a call or action is to our soul's evolution, the more Resistance we will feel toward pursuing it.

Resistance is fueled by fear: We feed it with power by our fear of it.

Resistance obstructs movement only from a lower sphere to a higher. It kicks in when we seek to pursue a calling in the arts, launch an innovative enterprise, or evolve to a higher station morally, ethically, or spiritually.

The danger is greatest when the finish line is in sight. At this point, Resistance knows we're about to beat it. It hits the panic button.

Resistance by definition is self-sabotage.

Procrastination is the most common manifestation of Resistance because it's the easiest to rationalize. We don't tell ourselves, "I'm never going to write my symphony." Instead we say, "I am going to write my symphony; I'm just going to start tomorrow."

The most pernicious aspect of procrastination is that it can become a habit.

Casting yourself as a victim is the antithesis of doing your work. Don't do it. If you're doing it, stop.

What does Resistance feel like? Unhappiness. We feel like hell. A low-grade misery pervades everything. We're bored, we're restless. We can't get no satisfaction. There's guilt but we can't put our finger on the source. We want to go back to bed; we want to get up and party. We feel unloved and lovable. We're disgusted. We hate our lives. We hate ourselves.

Self-doubt can be an ally. This is because it serves as an indicator of aspiration. It reflects love, love of something we dream of doing, and desire, desire to do it.

Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do. Remember our rule of thumb: the more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it, and the more important it is to the growth of our soul.

If you didn't love the project that is terrifying you, you wouldn't feel anything. The opposite of love isn't hate; it's indifference.

Here's the trick: We're never alone. As soon as we step outside the campfire glow, our Muse lights on our shoulder like a butterfly. The act of courage calls forth infallibly that deeper part of ourselves that supports and sustains us.

There is a concept that one needs to complete his healing before he is ready to do his work. This way of thinking is a form of Resistance. What are we trying to heal, anyway? The athlete knows the day will never come when he wakes up pain-free. He has to play hurt.

The part we create from can't be touched by anything our parents did, or society did. In fact, the more troubles we've got, the better and richer that part becomes.

Don't get me wrong. I've got nothing against true healing. We all need it. But it has nothing to do with doing our work and it can be a colossal exercise in Resistance. Resistance loves "healing." It knows that the more psychic energy we expend on dredging and re-dredging the tired, boring injustices of our personal lives, the less juice we have to do our work.

It's one thing to lie to ourselves. It's another thing to believe it.

Rationalization is Resistance's spin doctor. What's particularly insidious about the rationalizations that Resistance presents to us is that a lot of them are true. They're legitimate. What Resistance leaves out, of course, is that all that means diddly.

Book Two: Combating Resistance

Someone once asked Somerset Maugham if he wrote on a schedule or only when struck by inspiration. "I write only when inspiration strikes," he replied. "Fortunately it strikes every morning at nine o'clock sharp." That's a pro.

All of us are pros in one area: our jobs. Now: Are there principles we can take from what we're already successfully doing in our workaday life and apply to our artistic aspirations? What exactly are the qualities that define us as professionals? We show up every day. We show up no matter what. We stay on the job all day. We are committed over the long haul. The stakes for us are high and real. We accept remuneration for our labor. We do not over-identify with our jobs.

Resistance knows that an amateur composer will never write his symphony because he is overly invested in his success and over-terrified of its failure. The amateur takes it so seriously it paralyzes him.

The more you love your art/calling/enterprise, the more important its accomplishment is to the evolution of your soul, the more you will fear it and the more Resistance you will experience facing it.

A professional is patient: Resistance outwits the amateur with the oldest trick in the book: It uses his own enthusiasm against him. Resistance gets us to plunge into a project with an overambitious and unrealistic timetable for its completion. It knows we can't sustain that level of intensity. We will hit the wall. We will crash.

The professional arms himself with patience, not only to give the stars time to align in his career, but to keep himself from flaming out in each individual work.

The professional will not tolerate disorder. He eliminates chaos from his world in order to banish it from his mind.

The amateur believes he must first overcome his fear; then he can do his work. The professional knows that fear can never be overcome. He knows that once he gets out into the action, his fear will recede and he'll be okay.

A professional accepts no excuses: He knows if he caves in today, no matter how plausible the pretext, he'll be twice as likely to cave in tomorrow.

A professional is prepared at a deeper level. He is prepared, each day, to confront his own self-sabotage.

The professional keeps his eye on the doughnut and not on the hole.

A professional self-validates: An amateur lets the negative opinion of others unman him. He takes external criticism to heart, allowing it to trump his own belief in himself and his work. Resistance loves this.

The professional learns to recognize envy-driven criticism and to take it for what it is: the supreme compliment. The critic hates most that which he would have done himself if he had the guts.

I like the idea of being Myself, Inc. That way I can wear two hats. I can hire myself and fire myself. It reinforces the idea of professionalism because it separates the artist-doing-the-work from the will-and-consciousness-running-the-show.

There's no mystery to turning pro. It's a decision brought about by an act of will. We make up our mind to view ourselves as pros and we do it. Simple as that.

Book Three: Beyond Resistance - Higher Realm

The most important thing about art is to work. Nothing else matters except sitting down every day and trying. When we sit down and work, we become like a magnetized rod that attracts iron filings. Ideas come. Insights accrete.

The Mother of all Fears is so close to us that even when we verbalize it we don't believe it. Fear That We Will Succeed. That we can access the powers we secretly know we possess. We know that if we embrace our ideals, we must prove worthy of them. And that scares the hell out of us.

Yeah, we lose friends. But we find friends too, in places we never thought to look. And they're better friends, truer friends. And we're better and truer to them.

We can't be anything we want to be. We come into this world with a specific, personal destiny. We have a job to do, a calling to enact, a self to become. Our job in this lifetime is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.

Creative work is not a selfish act or a bid for attention on the part of the actor. It's a gift to the world and every being in it. Don't cheat us of your contribution. Give us what you've got.

Happy Birthday T-Bone!

My younger brother, Tom, turns 23 today, and in lieu of a fancy present I am writing him a note on this blog. I hope it's not too embarrassing for him. :::big smile and a wink:::

First, a little context

Tom just graduated from UCLA with big dreams of playing football in the NFL. He signed with an agent, but got injured during the first event of his 49ers tryout. I believe that dream is still possible. But instead of waiting around, letting the circumstances get him down, or furiously treading water to stay afloat while looking for an entry-level office job, my brother took the road less traveled.

Tom is starting his own company for an idea he is passionate about (which I can't wait to share when the time is right). Through his alumni network he found incredible business partners. He filed paperwork to get a business license and become incorporated as an LLC. He has a business plan, a break-even analysis, a logo and sample products in production from manufacturers in LA and China.

I am blown away, more every day, by how real it is. It is not just talk. It is the ultimate pre-emptive strike against the woes so eloquently described by Pamela Slim in Escape from Cubicle Nation (a must-read for other entrepreneurial office-dwellers).

With that, my Happy Birthday note

T-Bone, I am so ridiculously, incredibly, unbelievably proud of you. Your optimism, spirit and drive are amazing. Your attitude toward life is inspiring. You had an idea and you went for it. You did not let a single fear hold you back. You built relationships with people who want to help you. You make people laugh. All the time. The qualities that make you great at football - strength, speed, discipline, instinct and the ability to quickly process information - will serve you very well in business. You are smart as a whip. You make me proud to be a Blake.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! -J-Bones

Life After College Deserves a Cupcake...and So Do You

Now thats what I call FROSTING!! (Photo courtesy of Flickr) Last week Ryan Stephens published his list of Top 10 Gen Y blogs. You - readers, friends, fellow bloggers - voted me #6. Number Six!!! I was jumping up and down like a school girl when I saw that. I would have been excited about an honorable mention. Heck, I was excited to be on the ballot in the first place. I called my parents and friends as if I had one the lottery.

More than ever and long overdue, I am compelled to express out loud the gratitude I feel every day.

Thank you.

Thank you to those of you who subscribe via email. Every time I see your name on my subscriber list, I smile and send you lots of happy thoughts.

Thank you to those who read in a feed reader - even though I do not know exactly who you are, I know you are out there! I'm honored to be among your (ever-expanding, I'm sure) list of blogs worth reading.

To those reading this blog for the first time - today, right now - welcome, and I look forward to getting to know you better!

Thanks for your insightful comments and your emails. Every one is like a little present in my inbox.

A special note to everyone on Twitter - you make every day exciting. You never cease to fill it with connection, humor, intelligence and resources. I hope I am able to do the same for you. I am always so thankful for all of the @replies, conversations, re-tweets and the #followfridays. Non-Twitter folk, have I lost you yet? If so, read why I think you should join the fun!

Thank you to those who have joined me and Jamie on one of our crazy cupcake tweet-ups, and to those who haven't - either head out to SF or hopefully we will soon be at a city near you! (Read a great write-up of our most recent cupcake tweet-up by BrokeGradStudent.com)

Even before the Top 10 Gen Y Blogs nod, this post was inspired by a similar one at David Cain's blog Raptitude. Thanks David, for your compelling writing and for such a sincere note to your readers. After reading it, I really felt I couldn't have said it better myself.

This blog is my playground. A fun, energizing place that is helping me "live the dream" of creating value, sharing it, and (hopefully) making people's lives better one little step at a time. Thank you for being great readers and great friends.

The Truth About Potential: Guest Post by Carlos Miceli

This is a guest post by Carlos Miceli. He is a young Argentinian that likes to question everything.

Editor's Note: Carlos is one of the most charming, friendly, intelligent and engaging people I have met on Twitter, and English isn't even his first language! I am thrilled to share his work on my blog.

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"We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done." -Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

What do people mean when they say that someone "has potential"? What do they see in someone when they say that person will "get far," whatever that means? Is it about having innate and undeniable abilities, like intelligence and charisma, that make an impact? Or is it about people betting on and predicting your future based on superficial first impressions?

The thing about potential is that it is never precise. Bosses, friends and acquaintances see people with potential as having "a bright future," but it is often based more on gut instinct than anything else. Because there is no way to be sure - to know exactly how good a person will be, or what life decisions he or she will make. No way of telling how much of their potential will be fulfilled.

When you think about getting places, it is not potential that matters. It is capacity. It is your capacity that will give you results if you put it to work. But other people don't always know what you are capable of, so they assign you a predicted level of "potential." And until they really get to know you, the level of potential they see in you is a guessing game.

You have more control over other people's impressions of your potential than you think. Why does it matter? Because if they think you have potential, they will support you. They will mentor you, fight for you, and give you opportunities.

I'm sure you've heard the phrase, "fake it until you make it." No matter what your capacity or level of experience is, if you can show potential, doors will start opening for you.

So how do you show potential? By standing out, being different. Sound hard? I'll go out on a limb and say it's actually easy. Really easy. These are my personal tips:

  • Be inquisitive. Ask questions. Lots of them. This is "Standing Out 101" since most people don't do this. Asking means "I don't know everything, but I want to." It shows ambition, which helps demonstrate your potential. Some people will be happy to answer your questions, and will be glad to have met you and supported you. Others will be resentful; they are the ones who you will probably leave behind faster.
  • Be controversial, wisely. When you think differently about something that everyone else agrees with, take a risk and speak up! Be open and leave room for being wrong, but be vocal too. Being willing to speak up when you are the odd-one-out is a huge step towards showing potential, because it forces people to notice you, to listen to you. But be ready to lose the argument; remember, it's not about being right, it's about standing out.
  • Be confident! Stand up for your uniqueness. For people to bet on you, they must believe in you. And they won't if you don't believe in yourself. Being confident is another way of saying "I'm a sure bet."
  • Be a rockstar. Go above and beyond what is asked of you. Be an essential part of the team. But don't try to be the PERFECT employee, because being perfect means fitting in perfectly. You can't stand out without having an edge. Putting yourself out there. Doing things differently.
  • Be unique. It's not up to me to define what is unique or not. Maybe writing poetry, maybe dancing salsa, maybe having a blog. Having a life outside of your mainstream activities will make people ask questions about you, therefore creating the mystery that makes you stand out. Potential is all about making people wonder about you, in a good way.

When you are alone, thinking about succeeding in life, always remind yourself that you have to give your best, that you CAN get where you want to, and that you are the master of your life. But when it comes to potential and people's opinions of you, market yourself accordingly. "Godinize yourself." Live on the edges. Be weird. Because being weird kicks ass.

Busting the Work-Life Balance Myth

This post corresponds to a 40-minute recorded teleseminar. To skip the background and jump straight to the call notes, click here. I recently did another promotional call with my good friend Jenny Ferry for the iThrive Experience workshop for women in Scottsdale, Arizona this Saturday. I'm really excited about the workshop - I will be giving a one-hour talk on personal finance called "How to Demystify and Gain Control of Your  Money." I'm in great company with a handful of experts who are also speaking at the event, including Pam Slim, author of Escape from Cubicle Nation. If you have a female friend in Arizona, we'd be incredibly grateful if you sent her this link - it's not too late to sign up, and the event is a steal at only $59!

For the last few months, Jenny has been hosting conversation-style calls about various topics with speakers from the workshop. You may remember my previous guest spot, "How to Rock Your Personal Finances." Our last call was "Work-Life Challenge: Stop Forcing Balance and Find Your Flow" - a topic I'm sure many of you can relate to. I actually laughed out loud when Jenny asked if I thought this would be a good topic. ME?! Work-Life Challenged?! BAH. The reality: this topic is near-and-dear to my heart, given that I am juggling a full-time job with what (gratefully) feels like a full-time blog, trying to also make time for friends, family, relaxation and all the other things that make up a full, rich life.

You can listen to the call (approximately 40 minutes) by (or right-click to download). Note: the first minute and a half is chit-chat which you may want to skip! I have included a high-level outline of the call below and a fully transcribed version in a Google Doc.

 

Work-Life Challenge: Stop Forcing Balance and Find Your Flow - High-Level Outline

1:28-10:00 - Introductions, Background on our Perspectives

10:00 - Myths About Work/Life Balance

  • That "life" starts as soon as we leave the office.
  • That there is an ethereal scale hanging in the sky, and the sides will perfectly balance.
  • The myth that once you figure things out, life will stay balanced (when in reality there is no "there" where you have achieved total balance forever).
  • That we have total control over how big the various pieces of our life "pie" are at any given time.
  • That being unbalanced is always a bad thing (sometimes you need things to be unbalanced so you can really go after what you want).
  • That you will finish your to-do list and it will be done forever. There will always be things do to - don't let the list control your life.

16:00 - Fresh Perspectives on the Work/Life Challenge

  • It is all about flow - don't beat yourself up when things get out of balance, just notice and adjust.
  • Be okay with where you are in the moment, try not to carry guilt about the things you didn't get done.
  • Acknowledge that work is a huge part of our lives, not something to run away from; it brings confidence, sense of accomplishment and social interaction with others.
  • Try taking a moment-to-moment perspective. Ask yourself, "What do I need right now?"
  • Let go of the notion that "I'm supposed to have it all YESTERDAY" (the great job, the great house, the great relationship, the great bank account).
  • Relax a little bit, release some of the need for control, lift the oars!
  • Realize that we cook up so much of what we "should" be doing in our own mind - for most of us there is not a real person cracking a whip telling us what to do, saying "get everything on your to-do list done!" We put a lot of pressure on ourselves, and sometimes we create more stress than we need to.
  • Take a birds-eye view, bigger picture agenda for your life.
  • Try to create balance within each day. Exercise, call a friend, go to work, do something restful. Rinse and repeat.

22:30 - Practical Tips: What Else Makes this Manageable for the Two of Us?

  • Jenny Blake
    • UNPLUG! With Twitter and Facebook and blogging and email it all spills together, and it all centers around my computer and my cell phone. Sometimes balance comes from prying myself away from my electronics to go be outside or do something fun.
    • Exercise in the morning, yoga at night helps me to unwind and transition to a different state of mind.
    • Make a point to relax, schedule time with friends, have fun - hang out with funny people!
    • Journal - helps me be more aware of where I am satisfied and where I am wanting more.
    • Kick myself out of the "I'll start tomorrow" mentality about things that are making me unhappy.
    • Awareness. When I'm not happy, I try to get clear on why and what might move the situation forward.
    • When I am stressed, I pick the three most important things on my list and just focus on those.
    • Block out time to reflect, slow down with things like workshops, coaching, journaling, etc.
    • Laugh! Remember that 9 times out of 10 I make things a bigger deal than they need to be.
  • Jenny Ferry
    • Mix it up. Create a set of structures that serve as reminders.  Example: a red string around your wrist - reminder of a mindset. Alarm Clock - set an alarm on your cellphone. Put something on your screen-saver. Post-it notes. Carry a stone or pebble in your pocket. Whatever you need to do to remind yourself to be aware and conscious of your life.
    • Gratitude journal, music.
    • Visualizations and affirmations adapted from the book Creative Visualization.
    • Make a list of what you've accomplished each day (rather than focusing on all the things you didn't get done).
    • Mix it up! There is no one way, no set answer.

34:20 - Final Plug for the Workshop

Clear your calendar and sign-up now for the iThrive Experience Workshop on Saturday, June 6! Not an Arizona resident? We would be grateful if you sent this to your female friends in the Phoenix/Scottsdale area.

Reminder: You have 3 options to get the full call experience: you can listen to the call in your browser (about 40 minutes), right-click to download, or click here to read a fully transcribed version.

3 Little White Lies We Tell Ourselves When Spending Money

You might be perfectly rational when it comes to spending money. But juuuust in case you're not, let me share a little story about my coffee habit, then tell you how it relates to the little white lies we tell ourselves when spending money. A little backstory on my love for coffee and how I talk to myself like a crazy person

The other day I'm driving to work, rocking out in my mom's white minivan (which is on long-term loan because I'm too cheap to buy a new car). I'm in a good mood. I approach Starbucks, which much to my chagrin AND my delight is directly en route to my office. My internal debate begins: "Should I go?" "No! Make a latte at work" "But I want Starbucks!" "You work at Google, land of the espresso machine! Don't you DARE pull over."

I veer off at the last minute. I DESERVE an iced latte. I've worked hard and it's hot outside. I get to the register. I also buy a breakfast sandwich. My total comes to $6.40. "No biggie, I mean, I would have spent at least $15 on brunch with friends anyway." "But it's Tuesday!" "Fine - then I'll make up for it over the weekend." Do you think I made up for it that weekend? Definitely not. In fact, I rubbed it in my conscientious frugal-self's face by visiting Starbucks three times in one day! As you can see in the diagram below (courtesy of Mint.com), I visited Starbucks 113 times in the last year. Ouch.

Jennys Coffee Shop Spending

So back to my point. I get that I'm talking about Starbucks here. A small purchase, given that I could be impulse-buying flat-screen TVs. But I don't think it matters - I think the white lies we tell ourselves are similar on purchases big and small. I'm sure everyone has different white lies, and I would absolutely love to hear yours in the comments. Below are three big ones of mine, along with some strategies for counter-balancing them.

3 Little White Lies We Tell Ourselves When Spending Money

White Lie #1: The Coupon Mentality - It's okay that I spent $X, because I could have spent $Y.

  • Examples: It's okay that I spent $8 at Starbucks this morning, because I could have spent $30 at brunch. It's okay that I bought a $500 TV I didn't need. It was on SALE.
  • Why We Tell the Lie: It makes us feel better. We spend money we probably shouldn't, then reassure ourselves by focusing on how much more we COULD have spent in some hypothetical scenario.
  • How to Counter-Balance: When you notice yourself engaging in the "coupon mentality" - offer up a counter argument. On the Starbucks example, I've learned to remind myself "but you could have also made french press coffee at home for FREE."

White Lie #2: I've Earned It! Over, and over, and over again.

  • Examples: I can buy this new pair of shoes - I've EARNED it. I've also earned an amazing meal, $50 worth in drinks with friends, and a new haircut. And my 3x per day Starbucks habit.
  • Why We Tell the Lie: Because we want to reward ourselves for working so hard! Totally justifiable. But how many times have you "earned" what you are spending money on? I am all for spending money on things that make you happy, and for celebrating your hard work. After all, we work so that we can enjoy our lives. Just be careful about how often you use this excuse. Have you really earned the 100th thing on your credit card statement or are you just getting carried away?
  • How to Counter-Balance: If you are working and saving money, that definitely earns you some splurge/reward purchases. Plan them in advance. Make sure that your "I've earned it" purchases aren't impulse buys - that they are items or experiences you really want. Another tried-and-true trick that your parents might have used: count the value of the item you are considering in work hours. These shoes cost two hours; this TV costs one week. Is it still worth it? If so, and you have the money, go for it.

White Lie #3: It's Fine that I Overspent - I will TOTALLY make up for it later.

  • Ahhh, the classic delayed payment approach. Hello, mortgage crisis! But alas, I digress...
  • Examples: I'll order this $50 item online (during the week) and go out to one less dinner this weekend. Or I'll go on a week-long vacation, then stay home for two weekends (without going out) to make up for it.
  • Why We Tell the Lie: It is the true procrastinator in all of us - why pay now or hold ourselves back today when we can just make up for it later? The catch here is that by the time "later" rolls around, we've either accidentally or purposefully forgotten about the IOU we made with ourselves. Convenient at the time, it inevitably catches up to you (and your credit card bill) later.
  • How to Counter-Balance: Work in the other direction - save your money first, then spend it once you've earned it. Don't make promises to yourself that you know you won't keep. When you find yourself saying "I'll make up for it later" pause for a second and ask yourself again, "will I really?" If you are genuinely committed to making a trade-off in future spending for a purchase now, that's great - just find a way to hold yourself accountable. Maybe even stick an IOU to your bathroom mirror as a reminder of how much less you should be spending over the weekend or on next month's purchases.

Alright, your turn to fess up. What are some of the little white lies you tell yourself when spending money?

The Complexity of Change and the Beauty in Embracing it

This post is part of the "Inconvenience of Change" series, hosted during the month of May by Matt Cheuvront at Life Without Pants along with New Day Revolution.

"Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.” -John Allen

Change takes many forms At its best, change inspires feelings of possibility, exhilaration, new beginnings, and opportunity. Making a change can be a breath of fresh air, a moment of pride, a powerful personal statement about what you stand for. Obama built a hugely successful presidential campaign around the theme of change. His was a message centered upon hope - hope for a better tomorrow based on embracing change today.

But change can also produce a great deal of fear, anxiety, confusion and sadness. Anyone who has experienced a difficult breakup probably knows what I'm talking about - the yo-yo between feelings of freedom and feelings of dread. Sadness over the loss, wrestling with unanswerable questions about why it happened, and uncertainty about what the future will hold. Sure - there may also be relief, excitement and hope - but it would be a mistake not to acknowledge the full spectrum of feelings that exist around such change.

Change is nuanced; no two changes are ever the same Sometimes you choose to change - you make a hard decision, quit your job, end your relationship or move to another city. Sometimes you waffle about making changes - you weigh pros and cons without ever reaching a decision or taking action. Sometimes you want a situation to change but don't quite know how to make it happen (hello, welcome to my dating life!).

And sometimes change chooses you whether you are ready for it or not. You get fired, get dumped, lose a loved one. These are not the changes that feel immediately exhilarating and hopeful. To call them inconvenient would be an understatement. But in time, these are often the changes we learn the most from. The changes that make us who we are and push us to question our assumptions about the way life works. These are the changes that encourage us to stop for a moment and re-evaluate our priorities and the direction we want our lives to take.

Embrace change and uncertainty

Image Courtesy of LadyFlyer.com

Regardless of where change comes from or the form it takes, we do ourselves a favor by embracing it. Enjoying the unknown and the suspense of not knowing exactly what is next. A friend once shared with me a powerful story that compares change and transition to flying on a trapeze. The author, Danaan Perry, talks about how you have to let go of the first bar to catch the second, a feeling that can be both exhilarating and scary. His message is that although we are often looking toward the next bar to grab, ultimately it is the unknown time in-between that is most valuable. An excerpt:

In my heart of hearts I know that, for me to grow, I must release my grip on this present, well-known bar and move to the new one. Each time it happens to me I hope (no, I pray) that I won't have to let go of my old bar completely before I grab the new one. But in my knowing place, I know that I must totally release my grasp on my old bar and, for some moment in time, I must hurtle across space before I can grab onto the new bar...

...I have a sneaking suspicion that the transition zone is the only real thing and the bars are illusions we dream up to avoid the void where the real change, the real growth, occurs for us. Whether or not my hunch is true, it remains that the transition zones in our lives are incredibly rich places. They should be honored, even savored. Yes, with all the pain and fear and feelings of being out of control that can (but not necessarily) accompany transitions, they are still the most alive, most growth-filled, passionate, expansive moments in our lives. (Read the full trapeze story here)

Similar to Perry, I believe change and transition create great opportunities for growth. But you have to be ready to embrace that growth. Be patient with yourself, and be patient with your friends. Realize that change is complex and that we all have different thresholds for it. When we are ready and when it really counts, we all have the power within us to make and embrace big changes that move us forward in major ways.

Check out the other Inconvenience of Change posts when you get a chance - I love the richness of the topic and the variety of perspectives from the dozens of other bloggers who have participated.

Life After College on Top 10 Gen Y Blogs Ballot

Given that this is a shameless plug for Life After College, I'll keep it short and sweet: I'm excited to announce that I am on Ryan Stephen's June ballot for Top 10 Gen Y blogs! For a list of great blogs AND to vote for Life After College if you feel so inclined, click here, where you will find a full set of instructions and judging criteria. In short, you'll select five blogs and email the list to ryanstephensmarketing(at)gmail.com no later than May 29th, 2009. Thanks in advance to those of you who send a vote my way!

Awesome Blogger Video Interview!

I'm really excited to share my very FIRST video interview with you, courtesy of Jun Loayza, Co-Founder and CMO of Future Delivery. The interview is part of his Awesome Bloggers video interview series at Viralogy, and I am honored to be one of his featured guests! In the video I talk about working at the start-up company, running a marathon, my book, some thoughts about life and money, more on my post about achievement (as a blessing and a curse), a free coaching offer, and finally at the very end, a plug for Jamie Varon's and my plans for World Cupcake Tweetup Domination. The video is about 15 minutes long. Enjoy!

Create a Professional Development Strategy (Part 2 of 2)

"What is the recipe for successful achievement? To my mind there are just four essential ingredients: Choose a career you love, give it the best there is in you, seize your opportunities, and be a member of the team.” -Benjamin Fairless

In my previous post, Create a Professional Development Strategy (Part 1), I talked about the importance of creating a professional development strategy to be engaged with your work and proactive about your career. We covered the first two steps, "The Vision" and "The What" (Knowledge, Skills, Talent and Experience). Now it is time to get down to business by putting your thoughts into action and focusing on "The How."

Step 3. The "How" If you haven't yet written down your answers to the questions in Part One, have no fear! I've created the following handy template which you can copy and use to record your answers. I've said it before and I'll say it again - write them down! This strategy is nothing if you can't refer back to it frequently. Back to the Part One recap: the first step is to articulate your big picture vision for where you want to be one year from now, then narrow your focus in terms of knowledge, skills, talents and experience.

Link: Professional Development Template (Go to File --> Copy to create a version for yourself)

Now we get to the how - time to write some measurable goals and come up with a plan for how you'll research and achieve those goals. I suggest the following five steps:

  1. Choose three key areas of development. Make sure they are broad and aggressive; don't sell yourself short or let yourself off easy! Stretch, think big, aim for the stars.
  2. Write a mini one-year vision statement for each area. Write as if you have already achieved success or made significant progress; for example, "Time Management: I am extremely efficient. Each morning I focus on completing my biggest task before answering emails. I prioritize my work on a daily and weekly basis, and make sure that 80% of my time is focused on the top 20% of my job in terms of strategic importance."
  3. Set benchmarks for yourself. If the development areas stretch over one year, what do you hope to achieve six months from now? Brainstorm a list of resources or action steps to reach your benchmarks. This may include any of the following:
    • Resources (blogs, books, videos, podcasts)
    • Trainings/Education (classes - online or in-person, formal education)
    • People to Talk to (Mentors, others strong in this area)
    • Other (journaling, scheduling weekly time for reflection, etc.)
  4. Develop a system to track your progress or use the sample template I created (I figure third time plugging this is the charm that will get you to put your plan to paper!).
  5. Engage others. Ask for feedback regularly, partner with someone who also wants to develop in one of the areas you have chosen. See my previous post on creating peer support networks.

"I am defeated, and know it, if I meet any human being from whom I find myself unable to learn anything." -George Herbert Palmer

Create a Professional Development Strategy (Part 1 of 2)

My philosophy on career growth is that if you are not actively learning, you are obsolete. To succeed in your career you need to take an active role in your learning and professional development. No one else will do it for you. This post is more instructional than most, but it is a topic I feel strongly about and one that is close to my heart as a life coach and manager in Training & Development. My role is to help people grow and take ownership over their lives and career, and to make sure I'm setting a good example by doing the same.

So how do you set a professional development strategy? Just like companies and teams set quarterly growth targets and business development goals, set aside some time to take a holistic look at where you are now versus where you want to be 6-months to 1-year from now.

Working through the areas below will give you focus, help you be more proactive about setting your own career direction (instead of waiting for a manager or company to do it for you) and will make you an incredible asset to any team. Grab a piece of paper or open a Google Doc and let's get started!

Step One: The Vision Before getting into specific tactics and details, spend time with the big picture. Whether you are are self-employed or work for someone else, think about what really excites you (see previous post: Career Exploration - Taking a Fantasy Job). What 2-3 key improvements would truly put you ahead of the pack? What key development areas, if you were to make significant progress in, would make you most excited and engaged with your work and add value to your team or company?

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Step Two: The "What" There are four key categories that your professional development strategy should focus on: knowledge, skills, talent and experience. Only the first two are within your direct control, but all four are worth exploration.

Knowledge - Knowledge is directly within your control. Learning more about a subject takes time, but it is generally a very straightforward process. Blogs, books, podcasts, videos, interviews, classes - the resources available to you are vast and largely free. Commit to learning and being a sponge for knowledge; it will set you apart and make you an invaluable resource to any team.

Key Questions: What will it take to become an expert in your field, or in one specific area of your field? What 2-3 topics of focus would be most beneficial to you? What knowledge or expertise do you want to have one year from now?

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Skills - Skills are defined as "the learned capacity to carry out pre-determined results often with the minimum outlay of time, energy, or both." In English: skills are things that you are good at; things you have picked up over time that transfer to job-related success. Some examples of general skills include time management, project management, and prioritization. You may also have specific skills related to your job or industry, such as marketing, sales or web development. While some skills may come more naturally to you than others (see talents), you can generally improve your skills through repetition, attention, self-awareness and feedback.

Key Questions: What skills do you already have? Make a list of ten. What new skills would take you from average (or above-average) to absolute rock-star?

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Talents - Talents, or gifts, are skills that come naturally to you. Talents light you up, give you energy, make you feel like you are "in the zone" when you are fully utilizing them. You may be talented at organizing information. Someone else might be talented at singing. I am talented at motivating people and simplifying complex problems. Tapping into your talents and your natural strengths will make you infinitely more successful in your role, happier and more engaged. There are several online assessments that will help you uncover your natural strengths; two free ones I like are Myers Briggs and Via Signature Strengths.

Key Questions: What skills or tasks come naturally to you? When do you feel most "in the zone"? What talents are you under-utilizing today? How can you better use your talents in the job you have now?

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Experience - Experience is tried and true on-the-job learning, and unfortunately you can't manufacture it. Particularly for young employees, "lack of experience" can be an exasperating reason for not landing a job or position you want. Even without years of experience under your belt, you can work to understand what types of experiences you will need to be successful in the future. If you want to be a manager, look for opportunities to drive a strategic project with multiple stakeholders. Schedule lunches (see my previous post on informal interviews) with people who have the experience you need or want. Ask what they have learned in their role, what surprised them, and what you can do to build prepare yourself for opportunities in the future.

Key Questions: What job-related experience are you lacking and how can you develop those skills another way? What aspects of that experience can you learn from others?

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Stay tuned for part 2 of this post, where I will show you how to take actionable steps to move this plan forward, provide the template I use for my personal development strategy and give a special coaching offer to those of you wanting a boost with your career development plan.

Steve Jobs on Living Life to the Fullest

This quote, an excerpt from Steve Jobs' 2005 commencement address at Stanford, is not news. It is four years old and you've probably heard it before. But I believe it is a quote worth reading (or watching) again. Consider it a a reminder to hold your head high, to live big, to trust your gut and to take risks. To be fully who you are, every moment that you possibly can.

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” - Steve Jobs

Click here to read the full speech.

Video (for those of you coming from an email or a feed reader, click here):

Jobs closes by saying, "Stay hungry, stay foolish." Amen.

Couldn't Have Said it Better Myself: Networking Link Roundup

It is time for the return of my "Couldn't Have Said it Better Myself" link round-up. These lists started as a monthly "peek into my brain" as your personal Google Reader, and have since morphed to be theme-based. Rather than post monthly, I will post by topic when the mood strikes (and when a stroke of luck and good planning gives me time to sift through 70+ Google Reader feeds). The topic for this round is Networking. Networking and I have a love/hate relationship. I love it when networking happens naturally and authentically; when it is fun, interesting and allows me to build real relationships with people. I hate networking when it feels forced, regimented, too strategic, or requires tedious small-talk. For many of the reasons on my second list, I always thought of networking as eating my spinach. I "networked" when it was convenient; not because I liked it, but because I knew it was good for me.

In the last year, largely thanks to Twitter, I have had a complete change of heart. Connecting with others in real-time (either on the phone or in person) after meeting online has been exciting, enriching and incredibly fulfilling. I am networking naturally because I enjoy it - because people are inspiring and interesting, and I am learning from them in a number of ways. Everyone has a great story to tell, and by virtue of how we meet we already seem to have a baseline of things in common. So without further ado, below are some networking articles that you will hopefully find interesting and informative.

Couldn't Have Said it Better Myself: Networking

Guess what? I found half of these blogs through social media networking! Okay cheesy, I know, but true. Bottom line: networking doesn't just make you friends, it makes you smarter.

Want to keep up with what I'm reading? Subscribe to my Delicious Network and my Google Reader shared items feed.

Big Rocks, Frogs and Productivity

“The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.”
-Stephen Covey

Frogs, Rocks, Priority A Tasks - call them what you want. These are the big important things on your to-do list, and they are often the most intimidating to tackle. In earlier posts I wrote about Brian Tracy's Eat that Frog principle and prioritization; Leo Babauta (Zen Habits) wrote about this in his post titled Big Rocks First: Double Your Productivity This Week (based on the concept from Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People book).

Photo Courtesy of Zebre (Flickr)

The basic idea behind Covey's "big rocks" concept is this: think of your day as a bucket. If you fill your bucket with little rocks and tiny grains of sand (emails and reactive tasks), there is no room for the big rocks (high priority or otherwise important projects). It is a lot harder to squeeze in big rocks when your bucket is already full of sand; however, if you deal with the big rocks in first, the smaller rocks and sand will easily fill the remaining cracks and crevices until your bucket is full. I highly recommend reading Babauta's post for a more detailed description.

Photo Courtesy of Thomas Hawk (Flickr)

Brian Tracy says if you "eat your frog" first thing in the morning, you will feel more productive and operate with a clearer conscience for the rest of the day. At work, I identify my three top priorities each day (and each week), then try to make sure I tackle those before getting bogged down in emails and meetings. I am not always successful, but at least identifying the major tasks up front helps me get a handle on what really matters as free time opens up throughout the day.

This can apply to personal productivity too - social media can easily take over every waking minute of the day if you let it. My big rock is my book project, and sadly right now it falls to last in line every weekend. By the time I think about working on my book, my bucket is already full of small rocks and sand. Twitter - which I LOVE, don't get me wrong - can quickly fill my entire day (among other small inconsequential tasks). Instead of working on my book (the great big rock), writing blog posts (my medium-sized rocks) or answering emails (my smaller rocks), I twiddle the day away tweeting. But I do say this with one caveat: weekends are also a time for fun and social events, which I consider big rocks given their enormous contribution to my sanity.

I solve this problem by scheduling time for my big rocks - the earlier in the day the better. If I don't start those tasks first, especially on weekends, I procrastinate until it is too late. What are some ways you make room for your big rocks? I would love to hear your solutions and ideas in the comments.

And for your personal reflection, what are your big rocks this week, both at work and in your personal life? How will you proactively make room for them before you find yourself in the weeds?