This is the Day To...

My friend Liz gave me a 5x7 card from life coach Caterina Rando called "This is the Day To..." It's been taped to the wall in front of my desk for over a year, and while I glance at it briefly every day, I finally re-read it for the first time in a long time. Although a little cheesy at points, I felt it was definitely worth sharing here with you. It is an incredible reminder to live big and give ourselves the space to be great.

This is the Day To...

Be loud and proud about your passion Keep your vision in focus Look for ease everywhere Uplift the world with who you are Be devoted to your dreams Take a risk and a leap of faith Ask for what you want Take consistent action Think big and broad Reveal your brilliance Proclaim your gratitude Acknowledge others often Acknowledge yourself more Expect success in everything Make this day matter

-Caterina Rando

Welcome WSJ Readers: 6 Tips for Life After College

I'm excited to share with my regular readers that I was quoted in the Wall Street Journal column, Starting Out, today! And a warm welcome to all the new visitors who have landed here after reading it. The column provides financial and career advice for people in their twenties just starting out. This week's subject was Graduates' To-Do List, a checklist of things to take care of before starting out in the real world (by Anna Prior). Naturally, not all of the tips I shared in the interview made it into the column, so I am sharing the rest here with you.

These ideas may sound familiar based on topics I've written about in the past; I believe they set the groundwork for three core areas of life after college: organization, career, and money. Although they happen to be aimed at upcoming graduates, most can apply to life long after college too.

Organization Tips

1. Create "The Ultimate Reminder File" for tracking appointments If you do not have a place to keep track of recurring appointments (medical or otherwise), you will always be scratching your head trying to remember when you are next due – or forget about making the appointments completely. Set up a simple spreadsheet to track all of your recurring appointments and the relevant contact information in one place, then schedule reminders to actually make the next appointment one month before you are due. Click here to see the tracking template I use.

2. Stay organized with an online calendar Create a calendar for tracking appointments, setting reminders and generally staying on top of things after college. I recommend Google Calendar because it is linked to Gmail and you can easily share events (or the entire calendar) with family and friends. In addition to tracking day-to-day events, you use your calendar to:

  • Set-up monthly reminders to pay your rent, bills
  • Set-up reminders to schedule appointments (per tip #1)
  • Set-up annually-recurring events for birthdays and other important days to remember (like anniversaries)
  • In the settings, sign-up for text or email alerts to receive your daily agenda (or reminder alerts for specific events)

Click here to read my previous post, Going Beyond the To-Do List.

Career Tips

3. Uncover and leverage your strengths Spend time taking a few assessments to learn more about your unique strengths and personality type. These tests can also help you identify potential career paths and give you language to better articulate your strengths to future employers. Collect your results and store them in a "master file" that you can refer back to as you put together your resume or prepare for interviews.

Myers Briggs: http://www.keirsey.com/ or http://humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp Via Signature Strengths: http://www.viasurvey.org/

Click here to read my previous posts on the VIA survey and Personal Branding.

4. Do a big picture visioning exercise to find a career that fits In high school you probably spent time visualizing characteristics of the ideal college you wanted to attend (large or small, in a big city or remote location, liberal arts vs. specialized education); this next transition into the working world should be no different. If you just settle for the first company willing to hire you, you won't give yourself a fair shot at finding a great job that aligns with your career goals. To start figuring those out, set time aside to think about what you really want from your first job.

Finding a Career that Fits - Questions to consider:

  • What really excites you?
  • What is your ideal work environment? (location, size of company, nature of the work)
  • In an ideal world, what types of things would you be doing on a day-to-day basis at your job?
  • What odd jobs or skills have always interested you? What kind of activities do you seem to pick up quickly?
  • Picture your ideal self five years from now: What have you accomplished? What are you doing? Where are you living? (Think big – don't limit yourself to only what seems possible)

Click here to read my previous post, Career Exploration: Taking a Fantasy Job

Money Tips

5. Conduct a "State of the Union" for your finances, sign-up for an online money management system

It's critical that before you graduate (and forever after) you have a complete understanding of your financial situation. You should know how much you will owe on student loans, what your monthly payments will be, whether you have any credit card debt, and how much your bills and other expenses (like rent) will be each month. Even if you don't track spending line-by-line, divide expenses into "must have" and "nice to have" so you can prioritize what you spend.

Click here to read my previous post, Create a Weekend Budget.

I also recommend signing up for a money management tool online for monitoring your accounts and tracking spending. My favorite is Mint.com because you can access it from almost anywhere (and opt-in to weekly or monthly reports), and the interface is clear and easy to use.

Click here to read my previous post, 7 Great Online Money Management Websites.

6. Develop sound saving habits from the start Set up an Emergency fund and a long-term savings account (I recommend ING Direct), with automatic direct deposits from your regular checking account. Even if you only contribute $10 per month to each, it will start you off on the right foot and help you develop strong saving habits. Once you get your first job, you will already have a system in place for saving money.

Click here to read my prevous post, Ode to The Simple Dollar's 31 Days.

Temperature Check: What's Your Quality of Life?

With the flu still sweeping through my office like the plague, it got me thinking: even without a physical fever, I've been feeling tired and stressed at work lately (as you may have noticed from the topics of recent posts), which has a negative ripple effect on all the other areas of my life. In a recent White Hot Truth article about our relationship to sleep, the author quotes the following message:

"Tiredness is a kind of sickness...It is not a matter of how long we sleep that determines whether we feel tired. It is waste and negative thoughts and actions that create tiredness. Create positive thoughts and elevated actions and you will take strength from that, and your tiredness will leave you." -Dadi Janki

It struck me that part of the reason I was feeling so tired was that I let work completely take over my life. I stopped doing things that gave me energy. Yes, work has been particularly busy and chaotic lately; but I have a choice in how I respond, and the more I let things that energize me fall out of my routine, the more tired I become, and the less able I am to perform high-quality work. It's not a good cycle or a place I want to operate from, and it sets the wrong example for the people around me.

As they say, the first step is admitting you have a problem. After coming to the conclusion that my work/life balance was completely out-of-whack (despite my recent post on prioritzation), I asked myself three key questions to uncover specific problem areas and brainstorm solutions.

3 Questions to take your "quality of life" temperature:

  • What are the areas of my life that I've let slip?
  • How healthy are my current habits?
  • What can I do to replenish my energy and feel excited and happy with my day/week?

The last step toward improving your quality of life is commitment - choosing actions that you believe will improve your quality of life and allow you to feel healthy and energetic again.

10 Small Actions to Improve My Quality of Life:

  1. Exercise daily
  2. Get outside as often I can
  3. Drink more water
  4. Smile more
  5. Go to bed earlier, watch less TV
  6. Snooze less
  7. Engage in meaningful 1:1 conversations with people
  8. Multitask less. Focus on what I'm doing at the moment and enjoy it
  9. Take 3 deep breaths smack-dab in the middle of the day to slow me down when things get crazy
  10. Be nicer to myself.

Those are my quality of life improvements (I would like to note that they are working already!)...what are yours?

Celebrate Your Life

"Your life is either a celebration or a chore. The choice is yours."
—Author Unknown

In what ways do you make your life a chore?

Take this as an opportunity to wake up and pay attention. Stop looking at your life, your work, or your blessings as a chore. Celebrate your life! Every minute you possibly can.

The Emotional Side of Money

Money is like food – we all have our weak spots. Some of us spend money emotionally. Some live in fear about money. Some have no fear! It's important to identify what your unique financial strengths and weaknesses are so you can start to address them and move toward financial freedom and ease. The purpose of this exercise is to examine your beliefs and emotions about money so you can see how they may be affecting your saving and spending habits, and identify areas for improvement. Emotional Side of Money - Questions to Ask/Answer: (This exercise will be more effective if you actually write your answers down)

  • What is important to you about money?
  • What emotions do you associate with money?
  • What lessons did you learn about money from your family growing up ("good" or "bad"), both directly and from observation?
  • In what ways do you manage money well?
  • What are some specific ways you could manage your money better?
  • Describe your ideal financial picture. How are you making money? How are you managing it? How are you spending it?
  • What area of financial management or spending concerns you most?
  • What one action could you take today to improve in this area?
  • How will you reward yourself for improving in this area?

That's it! All your money problems solved, right?

Life After College Wordle

I've been having lots of fun lately with an online tool called Wordle. You provide a link or a chunk of text and it spits out a fun, interesting and customizable image, or word cloud. Words are displayed by size based on their frequency. Anything you create on Wordle goes into a gallery that you can then print or share with friends. The best part about Wordle is that after it spits out an image you can cycle through various formatting options, from colors to fonts to vertical or horizontal orientation, all with unique visual appeal. Check out the Wordle I created from the Life After College homepage: life after college wordle

Want More Success & Work/Life Balance? Learn to Prioritize.

Before you brush off this post as simply stating the obvious, indulge me in a reminder we can ALL use from time-to-time. I've had a number of conversations in the past week that, whether people realize it or not, all come back to time management and prioritization. Common signs that you could benefit from resetting your priorities:

  • You want to make a bigger impact at work
  • You want people to appreciate the work you do
  • You feel buried in emails and meetings, and you are constantly reacting or playing catch-up
  • You want more time to yourself outside of work
  • You want to spend the free time you have doing fulfilling things; things that make you happy

As I see it, there is only one fundamental prioritization question: what {fill in number from 1-3} change or action will have the biggest impact on my {work, life, project, success, finances, relationship}? Some examples of this question manifested in work and life:

  • Impact and Development: what 2-3 key behavior changes or performance improvements will have the biggest impact on my development and on my contribution to my team/company?
  • Project Management: What 2-3 tasks are critical to the success of my project this week? Tomorrow?
  • Work/Life Balance: What 3 things MUST get done today so I can leave the office at a decent hour without feeling guilty?
  • Happiness: What is one change I can make that will have the greatest impact on my happiness? (Applies to all other areas of life too)

We all know that emails, meetings and busywork could fill 24 hours of every day, seven days a week. The people who succeed are not the ones who get every tiny task done or try to improve on every single weakness. The ones who succeed are the people who focus their time and energy on the highest-impact, highest-priority activities and learn to say "no" or "you can wait" to the rest. They work smarter, not harder.

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You may also want to check-out my earlier post on Brian Tracy's Eat that Frog! concept, and read the following About.com article about Pareto's Principle, which states that 80% of your results are achieved from 20% of your activities. Finally, if this topic really interests you, check-out the book "The 80/20 Principle: The Secret to Success by Acheiving More with Less" by Richard Koch.

Life After College Facelift! And a Little History...

This one goes out to all my peeps on Google Reader (and those who subscribe via email). It's time to jump out of the feed-i-verse and come visit my blog in a REAL web browser! I am excited to announce that I gave it an extreme makeover (everything but the tummy tuck). Funny story about the history of the site and why this redesign is a big deal:

When I first conceived of the idea for this website almost four years ago, I had never heard of blogging. I just wanted something creative on which to practice the new CSS and HTML skills that I taught myself at the startup as our default webmaster. As an avid reader and information gopher, I had accumulated tons of resources about life after college and wanted to share them with others forging out on their own into the real world. So I built the framework for the site in HTML - about 50 pages - and then got tired. Designing and coding the site (the exciting part) was over. My next step was to write and fill-in the content, and I got writer's block. FOR TWO YEARS.

That's right, my beautiful website sat vacant on the Internet for two years with all the links in place, but placeholder text everywhere that said "insert description here." Then a little over a year ago, someone emailed me. She was a fellow UCLA graduate and sent me the following email:

From one Bruin to another, great job on the website. I'm personally looking for answers re: life right now on the internet and all I found is this cute website. I wish you tons of success and the fact that you started this website inspires me that I can do a lot. Thanks for your 2 cents and initiative to start such a website!

Somewhat panicked, I checked my Analytics and lo-and-behold, I had gotten a steady trickle of 5-10 visitors a day searching for "life after college." I knew it was time to fish or cut bait. I had to either take the whole thing down, or finish building out my content and actually take it seriously. Her email, seeing that I could inspire someone with even a half-baked site, gave me the push I needed to finish and launch Life After College.

So I worked like a mad-woman for two days adding links, books, and accompanying text to get the site up to snuff. I sent the launch announcement email to about 50 friends and family around 10 p.m. one night, and as I lay in bed something hit me. I was missing a major feature. So I jumped out of bed, figured out how to install a blog into my existing site, and stayed up almost all night making sure it came together before people checked their email in the morning.

The blog brought my website to life. It gave me a voice, and it helped me generate new, fresh content on a regular basis. It didn't take long before I started ignoring the rest of the HTML pages, and about six months ago I realized that at some point I needed to take them down and switch everything completely to the blog. It just makes life easier, and HTML-based blogs are SO last year. So, friends - here we are! Starting today, Life After College has a new look. I'm breathing a sigh of relief, and enjoying the blog's transformation as much as my own since this crazy journey began.

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As a side note, I moved all of my book recommendations to a new location: check-out my very own mini Amazon!

In Defense of Twitter

Take it from a converted skeptic. Twitter rocks. I used to think it was the ultimate time-suck: typing status messages into a vortex all day long?! You've GOT to be kidding me. But as a Web 2.0 lover and prided early adopter, I couldn't stand not being part of this seemingly-inane yet rapidly-growing phenomenon. Finally, after hearing speakers at a blogger panel rave about their love for Twitter early last year, I signed up begrudgingly but with a dash of excited curiosity. At first interacting with Twitter was about as exciting as watching paint dry. I started following five people, and had two others following me. I tweeted Facebook-esque status updates and wondered why on earth anyone would care. It definitely felt strange writing messages for two people. This would be so much more fun if I had more friends on here, I thought. If you tweet, they will come?

Little by little, my community started growing. It started with people I knew in real life - coworkers and random friends. Then it expanded to runners (when I was training for the marathon), bloggers, fellow life coaches, famous athletes and people who just make me laugh.

Twitter is not just about what you ate for breakfast this morning or how badly you want to pick your wedgie. People link to interesting articles, post quotes, share random thoughts, ask for advice and create a wonderful sense of far-reaching community. And every unexpected @ reply (someone responding to me), brings a generous smile to my face. I feel seen and heard.

For bloggers, Twitter is a fantastic way to broaden your network, meet new people and share ideas. It's also a way for me to share a little more of my personality and every-day thoughts beyond what I find post-worthy for my blog. For non-bloggers, it's a quick way to consume content and engage in guiltless voyeurism. And in the weird way that only micro-blogging and social media can, Twitter strengthens and adds layers to your real-life connections too.

I still have my fair share of insecurities about Twitter (and blogging, for that matter): Am I interesting? Am I funny? Am I useful? Am I inspirational? Do I actually have anything NEW to say? But then I remember not to take it too seriously, and to forge ahead anyway. I tweet and I blog because it makes me happy. And isn't that all that matters?

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What would this post be without a plug to follow me on Twitter?! And for a funny related read, check out David Pogue's "The Twitter Experiment."

Seomoz's Web 2.0 Awards: Recipe Site Winners

Seomoz's Web 2.0 Awards highlight 170 interesting websites in 41 categories, and I always have fun scouring the list for new online applications. Based on winners from their "food" category, here are three recipe sites to add to your repertoire: Im Cooked From Seomoz: "An entire site dedicated to food, Im Cooked lets members share recipes, make friends, watch cooking videos and learn more about culinary arts without the frills that often come with gourmet food television shows and websites."

Recipe Key Similar to Super Cook, Recipe Key allows you to find ingredients based on the items in your pantry.

Cocktail Builder From Seomoz: "Have a lot of bar fixings lying around and aren't sure what to do with them? Enter your ingredients into the Cocktail Builder and let it tell you which concoctions you can make! Find recipes, drink suggestions and purchase bar paraphernalia."

You're Invited! Free Teleseminar Series for Women

Sorry fellas - this post is for the ladies. Looking for something fun to read? Stuff White People Like always delivers a good laugh! For the women - my good friend Jenny Ferry is heading up a series of FREE coaching calls focused on all areas of your life: nutrition, relationships, fitness, style, career and finance - and you're invited! It starts this Wednesday (January 21)  and you can sign-up here. The calls are free, and there's currently a discount rate of $29/month for group coaching if you want to sign-up for that too. The best part? I'll be one of the guest coaches! My section is called "demystify and control your finances."

About the Free Teleseminar Series: From Jenny: "You're invited to join me & my friends for a very special FREE EDUCATIONAL teleseminar series with some of the brightest female minds in the coaching world. We will be showing you how to:

  • Create a springboard to accelerate personal success in life and work;
  • Focus attention on the key factors to designing your dream life;
  • Empower you to take the actions that will move your forward NOW;
  • Avoid the biggest mistakes women make in their 20s & 30s;
  • Shift your mindset for big change, even if you've failed in the past;

Let 2009 be your year to SHINE! Take a minute right now and add these dates and times to your calendar. You won't want to miss a single information-packed call! BTW, did I mention it's FREE! :D Sign up to receive the call-in number at: http://www.Year2Shine.com.

About the Coaching Program: From Jenny: "What makes it different? I’ve built a members-only online coaching community through NING where you can network, learn & grown with like-minded women plus access resources galore. It’s my attempt to bring affordable coaching to the young, fabulous & broke. So why not jump in to this exclusive membership-based coaching program for less than the cost of a latté a day? www.We4Life.com."

Jenny also has a great eBook called "5 Simple Keys to Rock Your 20s."  Head over to her site to download your free copy.

You Don't ALWAYS Have to Pursue Your Passion Full-Time

Don't get me wrong. I am all about figuring out what makes you happy, vigorously taking control of your career, and making changes so that you don't get run into the ground doing work you don't like, love or -gasp!- aren't passionate about. This might sound hypocritical given my general stance on doing what you love, but I want to acknowledge that there is a time and a place for pursuing your passion full-time, and it's different for everyone. I admire full-time bloggers, writers, artists, coaches and self-employed entrepreneurs. I also love the message from the guys at Pursue the Passion who interview people "living the dream." And I still choose to go to work every day at my full-time job, working for "the man" even though my dream is to have my own company one day. No, work is not my most passionate passion. But that is OK. Don't feel bad if you are working to pay the bills. Work is called work for a reason - it's fun if you're lucky, but if you're learning more and more every day, that's where you really get a return on your investment.

During my two week vacation over the holidays, I spent almost every waking hour of the day working on my book, writing blog posts and doing a coaching session here and there (all passions of mine). But I also missed the chaos and camaraderie of working at Google.

I confirmed my hunch that I wouldn't be happy without my full-time job in my life right now, and I'm still learning so much every day that it feels incredibly worth it to spend so much time at work. Plus, it gives me more to blog, write (and eventually) coach and consult about. It will probably make me a better business school candidate. Without entry-level experience at the start-up and without a full-time job learning how to be a manager right now, I definitely wouldn't be where I am today in terms of business skills, knowledge, self-management and people-skills. The pace of learning far outweighs the trade-off of not pursuing my passion full-time right now.

So here's the bottom-line: there's a lot of talk in the blogosphere about pursuing your passion and quitting your job to follow your dream. And I think that is fan-freaking-tastic whenever you are READY for it. Don't feel bad if you're not ready today. Don't let fear hold you back, but learn to separate fear from actually getting value out of where you are now.

And that doesn't mean throwing your passion out the window - commit to carving out time every day and every week to cultivate activities and start building a vocation you really love.  If it's volunteering, do it! If it's writing, do that! If you can figure out how to do these things within your job description? Even better! It's not a zero-sum game - you don't have to pursue your passions full-time in order to have them in your life.

Couldn't Have Said it Better Myself: January - It's All About Change

Time to ring in the new year with a whirlwind round-up of great posts about your career, your life, your money and your development. This month's theme is CHANGE: planning for changes you want in your life, ways Gen Y will change the workplace, and dealing with (and embracing!) changes that choose you. I've also included a few other random topics that I picked just for fun. Couldn't Have Said it Better Myself - January:

I also wanted to let you know that I'm now a member of 20-Something Bloggers and the Brazen Careerist Community - add me and/or join if you're a fellow Gen-Y blogger!

Must-Read Career Book for Life After College: @ the Entry Level

As I work on writing my own book with tips and exercises for Life After College (major dream goal from the life checklist), I re-read my list of 10 Books that Changed My Life from earlier this year, and realized I'm missing one - BIG TIME. The book that single-handedly changed my attitude toward work and life at the bottom of the ladder is called @ the Entry Level: On Survival, Success, & Your Calling as a Young Professional, by Michael Ball. Ball flawlessly covers managing the transition from school to work, the feelings we all experience when just starting out, how to suck it up and make it through what seems like meaningless work with a great attitude, finding value and connection to your work, and the importance of work/life balance - among many other great topics.

Some quotes from the book that really stuck with me:

  • "Think of your knocks not as a punishment, but rather as an entitlement. That is, you deserve your bumps and cuts at the entry level because you've earned the right to be vulnerable to them."
  • "Symptoms can include deep-seeded feelings of anger and resentment about being overworked, underpaid, and disvalued, as well as a pervading sense of worthlessness and plummeting self-esteem...but while feelings of hostility and bitterness are perfectly normal byproducts of injured ego, these emotions have to be kept in careful check at the office."
  • "The importance of doing the small stuff well - regrettably, it usually doesn't get noticed when you do, but it most certainly gets seen when you don't."
  • "Create a DIGJAM file - Damn I'm Good Just Ask Me - to keep examples of your best work and praise." (Note: I call these "Keepers" - and have a dedicated folder in my email inbox for thank-you notes and other feel-good, pick-me-up emails)
  • "Building effective, productive relationships is how you open up professional channels and position yourself to garner the feedback, opportunities, and contacts you need to be successful."
  • "If you don't identify, tenaciously fence-off, and then keep careful watch on those parts of your life reserved only for you, your company will steadily graze their way into them, leaving you hewn, barren and desolate. By getting good at your "me time" as a career freshman, you'll be able to more effectively handle the heavier weights and strains levied by future positions."
  • "While you may graduate from school, you absolutely never graduate from learning."

There are so many more pearls of wisdom in the book - I highly encourage you to read it if you're just starting out. Ball also gave a great interview to the Washington Post with Q&A about life after college issues in the workplace.

Desiderata - a Famous Inspirational Poem by Max Ehrmann

My dad shared a poem with me today and immediately after reading it I felt compelled to share it on my blog. The poem is called "Desiderata" (latin for desired things) and was written by Max Ehrmann in the 1920s. Enjoy! 

Desiderata Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy. –Max Ehrmann

Forget Goals; Find the Happy Place!

I'm usually a goal-setting fiend. But for some reason, as New Years rolls around and everyone's talking about goals and resolutions, the old goal-setting routine just hasn't seemed very exciting to me. If you're in the same boat, try coming up with a visual representation of what you want in 2009 instead. A little background: In college, my friend and I had a great stress-relieving technique. When things got rough or we became frustrated, impatient, angry or sad, we would tell each other to "go to the happy place." The happy place was an imaginary blissful scene of our choosing (with a little humor mixed in). At the time, my happy place was on an island with Vin Diesel.

Today I found a new happy place while driving (when I get my best ideas). I was thinking about what I wanted for myself in 2009. All of a sudden I got hit with an image -- bear with me because it's a little cheesy. I was standing on top of a mountain, clear blue skies, hands raised in the air, breathing deeply with my eyes closed and a smile on my face. BOOM! That's my vision for 2009. To me, it stands for fearlessness, endless possibility, the feeling I can do anything, and stopping to enjoy the world at the same time.

Create a Visual Representation for Your Life in the New Year:

  1. Close your eyes. Where's your happy place? What image or visualization represents how you want to feel in 2009? Give yourself some quiet time to reflect. Once you connect with that vision, setting goals will be easier and more meaningful.
  2. Next, figure out how to capture your vision. Write it down, or try making a vision board (a collage or visual representation of your dreams and goals).

If you're looking for another alternative to goal-setting as you get ready for 2009, try some of the following exercises (from previous posts):

If you do want some goal-guidance, check out:

Happy New Years Eve, and may good things come to all of you in 2009!

I've Got a Case of the Tomorrows

Procrastination is the bad habit of putting of until the day after tomorrow what should have been done the day before yesterday." -Napoleon Hill

I'm in the middle of a two-week vacation - the longest break I've ever taken from work without travel - and I'm feeling more tired and unhappy than I expected. Today I figured out why. I've got a case of the tomorrows.

In the weeks leading up to this heavenly, unscheduled vacation I fantasized about all the wonderful things I would be doing. Working on my book in random coffee shops for hours each day, hanging out with friends and family, re-committing to my gym routine, thinking big and setting goals for 2009. Well I'm halfway into this vacation and I've got a case of the tomorrows. My days are filled with errands and oversleep, and in the remaining hour or two I try to squeeze in a few of the things I *really* want to do. I keep saying "I'll get to that tomorrow," or "I'll start tomorrow," or "TOMORROW I'll get to spend exactly as I want."

Today is a classic example. It's tomorrow. Waaay past tomorrow actually. Monday, Day 8 of my vacation, and only just now at 4:00 p.m. am I finally sitting down in the coffee shop, finally using my brain, finally doing some writing. I didn't go to the gym, I didn't wake up early as planned. I started feeling lethargic, impatient, and ANGRY. Why? Because I'm mad at myself for not living up to my dream vacation! For putting everything off until tomorrow. Pretty soon I'll be back at work, and the last thing I want is to look back on these two weeks with regret at all the things I didn't do. Now, I know the glass is also half full - there is plenty I have done, but I'm still going to take a minute to figure out how I can turn up my satisfaction dial just a touch.

Here's an exercise for you, timely given the impending and inevitable New Years Resolutions. What do you make a habit out of putting off until tomorrow? What five things, if you started TODAY, would improve your quality of life?

Things I'm repeatedly putting off until tomorrow, that if I started now would improve my mood:

  • Waking up early (between 6:00 - 6:30), NOT snoozing!
  • Starting my morning gym routine back up, daily yoga
  • "Front-loading" my day so that I do my favorite activities early, errands in the afternoon
  • Setting aside 3-4 dedicated writing hours
  • Balancing my activities within the day, so I do a little bit of everything (see friends, family, exercise, etc)

As part of this exercise, take a closer look at what's currently stopping you from starting today. How can you give yourself a boost to ensure these things are more likely happen? Some ideas:

  • Partner with a friend
  • Set a reward for yourself
  • Start small - pick one thing that would make the biggest difference and start there
  • Don't let yourself off the hook! Push through initial feelings of resistance or "I'll do that tomorrow..."
  • Write a plan the night before of exactly how you want to spend the next day or the next weekend

Other ideas? Do tell!

We shall never have more time. We have, and always had, all the time there is. No object is served in waiting until next week or even until tomorrow. Keep going... Concentrate on something useful.” -Arnold Bennett

7 Great Money Management Websites

An interesting article ran in the New York Times today: Lose Confidence in Your Bank? Try the Web. The article says that despite people's growing mistrust in banks, they are placing more trust in online financial management tools. Unlike the economy, registrations are up not down, and people are getting smarter and more disciplined about how they manage their money (which is a very good thing). Below I've shared the financial tools mentioned in the article and a few other helpful sites. Seven Great Online Money Management Sites

Mint Mint pulls financial information from all of your accounts (for example: checking, savings, credit card,  investments, mortgage); shows spending trends, allows you to create and manage budgets and sends weekly or monthly financial summaries via email. You can also text Mint to receive an instant update on your account balances, or download its free iPhone app for instant access.

Credit Karma Allows you to check your credit score for free as often as you'd like.

Smarty Pig A "social savings" account that allows you to share savings goals with friends.

Wesabe In addition to online account management features, Wesabe describes itself as "part money management tool, part community."

Cake Financial A system to specifically help you manage and view investment accounts.

Thrive Also similar to Mint.com, Thrive brings all your credit card, checking, savings, retirement, and investment accounts into one place so you can "easily see what you have, what you owe, and where you can grow." Rudder Rudder's best feature is it's detailed financial summaries - delivered straight to your inbox. Account management features are in line with the other websites above.

Happy Birthday to Life After College! A Letter from the Editor

Today is the one-year anniversary of the Life After College Blog - wuhooo!!! It’s been a huge year. I spent some time reflecting on major milestones for me and the blog, my favorite posts, why I started this website in the first place and how it relates to my larger life purpose (as I currently see it). A Few Milestones and Favorite Posts

On a personal levelI launched this website, bought a house, broke up with my boyfriend, completed training to be a life coach, became a manager at Google, held a personal 90-day No Car Challenge, ran a marathon, turned 25, bought myself a diamond ring, and signed on to lead and develop a workshop for women with five other amazing coaches in 2009. Those of you who I’ve corresponded with over email know that my personal mantra is “live big!”...I’m pretty sure this is it!

It’s been a big year for my blog too. It’s the first site that comes up if you Google “life after college” – and I get 500 hits from that exact search every month (not to mention the 500+ variations on that query). In the last month 2,800 people visited the site from over 81 countries, from Canada to India to Malaysia and Japan. In the last year I've gotten over 14,000 visits from 108 countries. I've written 80 posts and have 37 subscribers that I'm aware of (23 via email and 14 through feed readers - now go tell your friends so we can double those numbers!) While these traffic statistics may not be a lot compared to the big boysI am proud and humbled that people are actually interested in what I have to say.

Check-out a few of my favorite posts if you just started reading (or want a refresher):

Why I Started Life After College

I started this website because when I dropped out of school to help start a company with my mentor and five other college professors, I was clueless. I was smart and resourceful – but clueless, lonely and lost. While I was struggling to understand health insurance, my 401(k) and how to be a good employee, my friends were still partying and taking finals.

So I read and I researched and I set goals for myself. I became a student of personal finance, time management, organization, productivity, website development, career success, leadership, personal growth, goal-setting, vision, entrepreneurship, diet & exercise, learning & development, mindfulness and the art of happiness. I read books and took courses in all of the above. This year, as I went through 116 hours of coaches training, the connection between all of it became clear to me – I am fascinated by human potential. Personal growth isn’t a hobby – it’s a passion.

My Purpose on this Planet (as I Currently See It)

I believe my purpose, and by extension the purpose of this website, is to help others (young professionals and beyond) become their own best selves – to wake up and be fully present and alive in their lives through simple and practical exercises, structures and tips.

My purpose is to help others expand beyond limiting ideas of what’s possible and live big! To share my passion for personal growth with the world so that I can help people lead rich, balanced, happy and fulfilling lives. Per the motto of this website, no one ever said life is supposed to be easy – but then again, neither is anything worthwhile.

With that, Happy Birthday to Life After College, and thank you to all of my precious readers – new and old – for being with me on this journey!

All the best,

Jenny

A Simple System to Achieve Your Goals

So this might seem contradictory given my post 'Enough.' last week about appreciating exactly where you are, but I just came across a GREAT resource online called "A Simple System to Achieve Your Goals." The author, Paul Myers, has developed an e-book (29 pages) and accompanying workbook (34 pages) that walk you through brainstorming exercises to help you set goals for the life you'd like to have. Examples of exercises in the workbook include:

  • If your life could be anything you wanted it to be, what would it be right now? (friends, house, leisure time, work, learning, vacation, etc)
  • Permission goals (things you could do right now but haven't given yourself permission for)
  • Things to get rid of (habits, people, etc. that you would be better off without!)
  • Inventories (skills, contacts, finances, interests

Myers says "Someone once remarked people spend more time planning a two-week vacation than they do planning their futures. From what I've seen, this is almost universally true. The exceptions are the true successes in life."

I couldn't agree more! How much time do you spend on goal-setting or "lifestyle design" versus watching TV? While there is a time and place for big picture planning and I don't advocate obsessing over goals, all of us could probably give a little more time to our most important work - figuring out what we want for our lives (and others') and going for it!

Click here to download the free guide and workbook to get started.