LAC Book: Crowd-Sourced Wisdom for College Grads - Join in the fun!

THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart to those of you who participated in the epic two-hour #u30pro chat last week - we had over 1,300 tweets (transcript here) and 180 participants! I am honored and incredibly grateful for all of the excitement, replies and ideas; the book definitely just got 1,000 times better. If you missed the chat but still want to submit tips for the book, now's your chance!

Here's how to submit a response:

    Twitter Bird

  1. Read the questions below.
  2. Send me an @reply on Twitter (I'm @jenny_blake) or tweet with the #LACBook hashtag (both if you have room).
  3. Make sure you include the question number
  4. I would really appreciate if you could retweet, share on Google Reader and send this post to your friends - the more tips and opinions, the better :)
  5. Submit as many replies as you would like before the deadline: Fri. June 18
  6. Please also make sure you are following me - if your quote makes it into the book, I'll need to DM you a release form (help me get a head start by filling it out now)
  7. Example tweet from the lovely Grace Boyle: gracekboyle Q10: Blessing in disguise was starting my blog. It unexpectedly led to my job, friends, roommate, and new life in Boulder #LACBook

Quick background for any new visitors: I'm working on a book for college graduates to be published next Spring by Running Press (a division of Perseus). The book is a compilation of tips, quotes, advice, exercises and recommended reading for every area of someone's life after college.

There are 10 chapters, and each will contain "crowd-sourced" wisdom from Twitter. If you want to follow the book's progress, sign-up for my monthly(ish) “inside scoop” book newsletter or click here to read the archives.

Twitter Questions for the Life After College book

  1. Life - Finish this sentence: When I graduated from college I wish I had known...
  2. Money - What's your philosophy when it comes to saving and/or spending money? Best tip?
  3. Work - What is the best career advice anyone ever gave you?
  4. Home - How can someone make the most of their living space? Any tips for living with roommates?
  5. Organization - What's one technique you use to stay organized and/or manage your time effectively?
  6. Friends & Family - How do you keep in touch and make time for friends and family after college? Strategies for meeting new people?
  7. Dating & Relationships - What's the biggest lesson you've learned from past (or present) relationships?
  8. Health - What diet, exercise or health habits have helped you stay healthy after college?
  9. Fun & Relaxation - How do you make time for fun & relaxation after college? Any tips for doing both on budget?
  10. Personal Growth - What has been your biggest blessing-in-disguise life experience since graduating from college?
  11. Extra Question: What general advice do you have for recent college graduates?
  12. Extra Question: Finish this sentence: Life after college is...

Thank you so much in advance - I already can't wait read all of your replies!

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And thanks again to Lauren, David and Scott for letting me partner with #u30pro to launch this campaign. If you're interested in joining future chats, they run every Thursday from 8-9EST.

Ladies and Gents we have a BOOK DEAL!!! Want in? Read on.

That's a random picture of me looking really happy (slash weird) in San Francisco. Crazy wind! I type this post with almost as much excitement as the time Suze Orman said my name. Oh, who am I kidding?! I CAN BARELY CONTAIN MYSELF and I've been bursting to tell you this for weeks:

We have a book deal!!!!

Important note: the contract has NOT been signed yet, which is partly why I was waiting so long to update you. It could take a few more weeks, but the process is moving forward. Let's hope this blog post doesn't jinx anything!

Running Press - it's got a nice ring to it, don't you think?

After the handful of meetings I had when my literary agent sent out the proposal in March, Running Press, a division of Perseus based in Philadelphia, made an offer to publish my book by Spring 2011. SPRING 2011! A book! A real one! In less than a year.  A huge thank you is in order to my agent Sarah for helping make this happen.

If you want the FULL nitty gritty details (including helpful writing-related links and resources) sign-up for my monthly(ish) "inside scoop" book newsletter or click here to read the archives.

The manuscript draft is due July 1, which is just three short weeks away. Nothing like a little (okay HUGE) deadline to light a fire under your ass, right?! Thankfully I have most of it written - except for one major piece of every chapter. That's where you come in.

Want to see your name in print?

My book is a compilation of tips, quotes, advice, exercises and recommended reading for every area of someone's life after college. The chapters are: Life, Work, Money, Home, Organization, Friends & Family, Dating & Relationships, Health, Fun & Relaxation, and Personal Growth.

Each chapter of the book will contain crowd-sourced wisdom from Twitter, and I've partnered with #u30pro to launch the campaign tomorrow - wuhoo! (HUGE thank you to Lauren, David and Scott who run the chat).

Here's how it will work:

We will be asking questions for the book during the #u30pro chat tomorrow from 7EST-9EST (4PST-6PST), and you should join! After all, who better to advise college grads than all of you brilliant, beautiful people? (Lauren suggests using TweetChat to follow the conversation).

If you know you are going to participate, it would be great if you could fill out this release form. Otherwise I will follow-up with you afterward if your tweet/s get selected.

If you can't make the chat tomorrow, don't worry - I'll post the questions early next week to give everyone else a chance to reply.

Want to do me a huge favor?

Spread the word and rally the troops - and thanks in advance for what I know will be a ton of great additions to the book! I'm a big believer in The Wisdom of the Crowds - this book just won't be the same without all of your input and ideas.

Cheers!

Serendipity & The Art of Being Alone

This just in: the woe is me cloud from two weeks ago lifted this past weekend and I've never felt more myself. Wuhoo!

On a recent trip to New York City for work, I followed all of your advice and I slowed down. Way down. So much that I didn't even tell anyone I was going to be there. Sorry to any New Yorkers I didn't get a chance to see!

I selfishly left the weekend wide open for myself to just be me - to traipse around and do whatever I felt like at any given moment. No plans, no commitments.

Actually, I did have a plan for the weekend, but it didn't work out. When Plan A failed I was determined not to let it ruin my weekend. So I quickly moved to Plan B: enjoy Manhattan and be FABULOUS. Get dressed up just for fun. Spend time alone without cramming my weekend full of plans and see what happens. And let me tell you, the Universe delivered.

Dancing, Dining and Shopping Solo

I'll spare you the diary-like entry of exactly what transpired over the weekend and just give you the highlights of my time alone:

  • On Friday night after Plan A didn't work out, I had dinner by myself at The Standard Grill. The Food & Beverage manager sent over dessert and champagne on the house. We became friends and he took care of me for the rest of the weekend.
  • On Saturday morning I went to yoga class outside overlooking the Hudson River with a view of the Statue of Liberty. Heavenly.
  • After yoga I put on my favorite dress, walked down to the Christian Louboutin boutique, and checked a big splurge purchase off of my life checklist.
  • I met an amazing woman at the Louboutin store and we became instant friends. We went to a two-hour lunch at The Collective, then she snuck us into the Bagatelle Bistro (a famous brunch spot with a daytime DJ), where we spent the rest of the afternoon dancing on booths and sipping champagne. (Here's a great article that describes the experience)
  • When I got back, I started breaking in my new shoes by dancing around my hotel room before Saturday night's solo dinner. Fabulously fun.

So those are the highlights! Sure, there were lows. But for each one, I quickly picked myself up. I made the effort to look my best (even if I didn't always feel my best at first) and go out alone. In return I made new friends, had great new experiences, and most of all - rediscovered my sense of freedom and confidence. I felt proud of myself again.

I was reminded this weekend that when you honor yourself and make (what can be hard) choices to slow down and spend time alone, the Universe takes care of you. Thank you Universe for taking care of me.

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P.S. New York City, I love you. I hope I see you again soon.

P.P.S. On a completely unrelated note, my friend Kevin Smokler is looking for two unpaid interns to work at BookTour.com this summer. As Kevin says, "The internship is technically unpaid but we fully intend to shower said interns with free books, gift baskets, good will and career advice/introductions." Sounds awesome! If you're interested read more here.

Guest Post: How I Outsource My Life to Over 13 People (by Gopi Kallayil)

Note from Jenny: When my friend and fellow Googler Gopi Kallayil first told me he outsources his life to over a dozen people, my jaw dropped in awe. I'm having a hard time figuring out how to outsource to one! (An unpaid intern if anyone is looking for a cool gig. And by cool, I mean I need your help to even figure out how to help). So I asked Gopi how he does it, and he replied with an email summary of his outsourcing tactics. I was absolutely blown away! Talk about priorities - Gopi has figured out how to employ dozens of people to make his life easier - and let me tell you - it works. Gopi is one of the kindest, happiest, most generous, and energetic people I know! His enthusiasm for life is contagious, which you can see for yourself in his award-winning Toastmasters speech, My Cup Runneth Over.

Even if we are all at varying places in our lives to afford this kind of outsourcing (though some would argue we can't afford NOT to), I hope you'll get a kick out of seeing how Gopi manages his life.

How I Outsourced My Life Away (by Gopi Kallayil)

There are some things that are perfectly egalitarian on this planet. Birth and death for one. And the fact that in between we all have 24 hours each day of our life. President Obama gets 24 and I get 24. But as our lives get busier and there are more choices for us it becomes difficult to do everything we want to in 24 hours. So we lead frenzied, busy lives, lurching from one commitment to another under the tyranny of schedules.

That is when I stumbled upon a concept that shifted my paradigm. You can BUY time in a free market capitalist economy and as a result have 28 or 32 or 36 hours in a day. I first read about it when A.J. Jacobs tried personal outsourcing and wrote an article in Esquire titled "My Outsourced life" which has done its rounds around the Internet. His point was that corporations were outsourcing so individuals could do likewise. Rock stars and Hollywood celebrities have assistants. So can regular folk like me.

My inspiration came from Timothy Ferriss, author of the best seller "The 4-Hour Work week"  when he spoke at Google (video). His compelling logic is as follows: Take your annual salary and divide it by 2,000 hours which is the number of hours people in America work on average. The resulting number is the economic value of an hour of your time based on your current compensation. Let us say that number is $40 for example. If there is something you need to get done but it is not your passion and someone else can do it for you for less than your hourly cost ($40 in this example) then you should give it to them and use that hour to focus on your passion and joy.

Simple! So I read his book, followed through and did much of the outsourcing he does, plus some more I have invented. It is likely, you may assume, that this is the lifestyle of the rich and the famous. I am discovering it is not and that you could get help as little as $4 an hour or even $0.

Here is what I have done to outsource my life:

  • Personal Assistant — I have a personal assistant in India through Getfriday. Her name is Nancy. Nancy sits in Bangalore but can handle anything that can be done on the phone or web. For example, if I am going on vacation she will stop my mail and all my subscriptions. Once my car got broken into and my navigator was stolen and she arranged for a repair shop to come in to my office in the San Francisco bay area and replace the glass before ordering a new navigator on the web. She saved me so much money by calling around and finding the best provider that with one transaction she paid for her fees for the next two months. In addition it may have taken 45 minutes of my time which would be difficult to find on a work day. So the problem would not have been resolved for several weeks.
  • Personal Organizer — There is stuff that accumulates around my house - books, mail, photos, CDs, bills, etc. Stuff that keeps piling up on my desk and kitchen counter and dining table. Erinne is my personal organizer and she comes in for a few hours on some weekends. We work together around my home office and in two hours my study is clutter-free and all my to-do items are in two small folders labeled "Urgent" and "Medium Priority." The psychic energy of having a clutter-free office is tremendous.We execute as a team for a few hours and I am done with home office work for another two weeks till things pile up again. But thanks to this system I can find find things when I need them such as a favorite CD, book, that picture from my reunion or the receipt for the music system I bought two years ago and need for warranty repairs.
  • Webmaster — I have my own website where I am interested in writing content but not in dealing with the technicalities. So I found Viggie in Madurai, India to maintain my personal website.
  • Housekeeper — Alma my housekeeper comes in a couple of times a month to tidy up, She is fantastic and does a terrific job. Thanks to her expertise and my own effort to keep it so in between her visits my house feels like a home. It is a haven for me.
  • Personal Chefs — I like entertaining but lack extensive gourmet culinary skills. Through Craig's List I found a few excellent personal chefs. When I host a dinner party we do menu planning together; one of us does the shopping, and we cook and get the place ready as a team. In this case I am not technically outsourcing to a caterer; however, since entertaining is something I enjoy (but don't have all the expertise) I am using an expert to complement my meager skills in this area.
  • Interior Decorator — As I mentioned before my home is my haven and sanctuary. I want it to look and feel that way. Kulvi my designer and I work closely together on the aesthetics. It is primarily my self-expression but Kulvi layers on her ideas. Other advantages including getting furniture from some show rooms that are open only during business hours (so hard for me to go) and open only to designers. And special prices only available to designers.
  • Editor — I love writing but need a skilled editor to polish my articles. My friend Nicky in the UK does a fantastic job like she did here.
  • Speech Coaching — I am a competitive public speaker and very active with Toastmasters. There are experienced toastmasters like my coach Henry who take me under their wing and provide the coaching when I am in competitions.
  • Graphics Artist — When I need very sophisticated graphics for my presentations I reach out to my long time graphics artist Kathy who I know from my McKinsey days. She takes my rudimentary designs and magically transforms them.
  • Bike, Run, Swim Coaching — I am a member of the Silicon Valley Triathlon Club which costs me around $5 a month. For that nominal fee I get free biking, running, and swimming coaching by some extraordinary athletes.
  • Handyman — Scott the handyman takes care of all the stuff around the house that need fixing and does a much more professional job than I could if were installing garden lights on my own.
  • Gardener — I have only indoor plants as the property association takes care of the ones outside, but historically there has been cultural herbicide at my place. Plants readily shrivel and die under my care. So Louis helps me pick the right plants from nurseries and keep them alive despite my efforts. I have him come over about once every three months.
  • Wardrobe consultant — Now you are all laughing real hard. So I will stop here. But I do I get some help from a friend and from a professional; both of them have a good taste in styles and labels, which saves me the trouble of dealing with the bewildering experience that clothes shopping is for me. Jenny doubts if it has made a difference. (Note from Jenny: Not true - Gopi always looks amazing!)

But don't you need a fortune to live this way?

Now I am sure you must be wondering how one affords all this if you are not a rock star or the Sultan of Brunei, which I am not. The well keep secret that I learned from Timothy Ferriss is that you can take advantage of free market capitalism, labor market arbitrage, and currency exchange rates and get all this for some relatively inexpensive rates.

For example, my website designer is $4 an hour and spends about 5 hours a month on my website, so that is a $20 bill. The triathlon club fees are about $5 a month and for that you get free coaching in three sports 2-3 times a week. Toastmasters dues are $3 a month and experienced members are always happy to be mentors. A personal assistant can be as low as $10 a month and for a 5 to 10 hours of their time you pay a nominal fee but get lots done.

More importantly, what do I do with the time that I've freed up? Focus quite exclusively on five things that are important to me and I want to spend most of my time on. Those five are:

  • Personal growth and spiritual practice
  • Family and friends
  • Physical, mental, emotional, financial health
  • Professional passions, which currently is my work at Google doing marketing
  • Personal passions, which includes global travel, yoga, public speaking and live music

Here is an example of the kind of trade-off I am making: I teach free yoga lessons and have done so ever since I trained to be a yoga instructor in India. This is my gift to the world. I am consciously choosing to pay someone to take care of tasks that are not my passion so that it frees up two hours a week when I can teach yoga for free.

How successful am I with this concept? Modestly successful, although this is still a work in progress.

Good luck if you choose to go down this path.

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About Gopi: During the day, Gopi Kallayil works as a marketer at Google. He also teaches yoga, travels the world, speaks, writes, sings, lives freely and joyously. At other times he espouses radical ideas like outsourcing your life and can be a general threat to orderly, civil society. Visit his website or follow him on Twitter.

What if I was just myself?

The last time I was in Las Vegas with my high school friends, I sprung up from a six-hour stint of lounging in bed to write a blog post titled Stop Auditioning for Other People's Lives. I was hit with a wave of inspiration, as so often happens when I travel and get out of my daily routine. This time in Las Vegas (Bloggers in Sin City FTW!), I came to a similar conclusion through the amazing love and support of a blogger I met there; an instant soul-sister and a wise, wise woman. If you don't already subscribe to Chelsea Talks Smack, do so immediately. She is an absolute rock-star (literally), and inspired this week's thought:

What if I was just myself?

  • What if I let myself feel my feelings instead of stuffing them down and pretending they don't exist?
  • What if I stopped measuring myself by my accomplishments and productivity and number of emails sent per day?
  • What if I told you all that I don't have it all figured out? If you haven't already noticed ;-)
  • What if I let you see the fun, crazy side in addition to the professional one?

I'll tell you what: I'd have more fun, for starters. I wouldn't burst into tears the minute someone asks me about dating and relationships. I'd be a clean-burning fire, and contribute positive, cheerful energy to a room the way that I know I can. I'd sprinkle my "gold dust" around and I would lift people up.

I would take care of myself so that I could be there for others. So that I could be truly happy for them and celebrate their successes even in the areas that I feel most stuck. I would relax. And feel a little happier...a little more joyful.

The Grace in Falling Apart

Pam Slim wrote a fantastic post today called The Grace in Falling Apart. For the most part, I have my shit together. Look! I swore on my blog! Letting loose already! But there is a part of me that desperately wants to fall apart. And I would like to let her. She's been cooped up long enough.

Don't worry, falling apart doesn't mean running away or doing anything drastic. It just means admitting that I actually have FEELINGS (and letting them out), which isn't always easy for me to do. 

Denial: The Busy Person's Answer To Feelings

According to my Enneagram type (I am obsessed with personality tests and The Widsom of the Enneagram book is amazing), Achievers tend to suppress their feelings by staying busy (Sandboxed Life, much?). They avoid intimacy because they can get more done and keep up the success mask that way. Their basic fear is of being worthless outside of their achievements.

Achievers fear that "closeness will allow others to see that they actually do not have it all together." So rather than risk rejection, "they will typically try to pull themselves together and achieve more so that others will be satisfied with them."

Their motto? "Feelings are like speed bumps - they just slow me down." Tell me if that doesn't sound exactly like the ecards I made five months ago! (Rule: if you click on the links you're supposed to laugh).

I'd make a terrible robot

As another wise teacher (who gave me the courage to actually hit "publish" on this post) told me recently: "The most beautiful part of you is that you are vulnerable. That at your core you are a normal, sensitive girl...even though you hide it with an extraordinarily hard shell. Hiding any insecurity or fear is just plain silly because everyone has insecurities and fears. That's what makes us humans and not bots. People will love you regardless of any shortcoming you may think you have."

So that's my assignment this week (and beyond). To stop hiding, to keep sharing and to keep feeling. And to just be myself.

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P.S. Now someone please crack a joke, because all this feeling talk is making me uncomfortable! Time for a good laugh! Or a cupcake. Or another trip to Las Vegas with 70+ awesome bloggers. Is it time for #BiSC 2011 yet?

May Mash-Up: Random Thoughts, Quotes, Advice & Links

I'd like to take a quick break from my regular programming to bring you another hodge-podge post in which I just throw out random links, features, quotes and tips. Take what you want and throw out the rest! A Personal Update: It's not quite the beach, but it's a start! Headed to Las Vegas, Baby

I'm writing this post at the San Francisco airport, en route to Las Vegas for what I already know will be an awesome weekend with 60+ bloggers for the second annual Bloggers in Sin City trip, organized by the fabulous Nicole Antoinette.

I wrote a post a while back called "The Blogger IS Real...But Even Better IRL" - I'm so excited for this trip because I love meeting fellow bloggers offline. Read Elisa's post, "How Blogging Got Me a Best Friend" for a great story how it brought the two of us together!

For a little insight into what I'm like when I'm not buried in my laptop, read the "Introducing Jenny" post from the BiSC blog, in which I talk about my love for dancing on stage. As Nicole joked in the comments (but is actually serious), "Advance warning: this trip will contain a lot of 'Oh yeah Jenny? THIS is life after college, huh?' references." What can I say? Fun is DEFINITELY part of life after college. So you better believe I'm going to be having some!

Awesome Reader Re-Connection: Interview at Brand-Yourself

Now this is a cool story. Katharine Hoffman, from Brand-Yourself.com, reached out a few weeks ago to interview me for their blog. I didn't realize until the post went up today that I actually coached her two years ago! In her intro she says, "Although she may not remember this, I had actually spoken to the fabulous Jenny Blake two years ago about my quarter-life crisis.  Even though we only talked on the phone for about an hour, it was one of the best hours I had spent because she really gave me some great advice and inspiration on how to move forward."

Katharine was one of the earliest readers and commenters at Life After College (thanks for sticking around!), and it's just so amazing to reconnect (and know that I made even a small difference in her life). Click here to read the full interview, in which I talk about coaching, blogging, and dealing with the oh-so-lovely quarter-life crisis.

Introducing Molly Hoyne's Coaching Program - The Joy Equation

Speaking of coaching and navigating quarter-life crises (how on earth do you write that in plural form?!) - Molly Hoyne, the inspiring woman behind Stratejoy.com (which also has an awesome blog), recently re-launched her Joy Equation program. The Joy Equation is a 30-day guided program that helps you "tackle the quarter-life crisis, gain confidence in yourself and love your life." The best part? You pay what you can afford - there is no set cost. Learn more here.

A Heartfelt Thank You for the Amazing "Sandboxed Life" Replies (and some follow-up advice)

So many people reached out after my post on Monday with words of support an encouragement - thank you. It absolutely means the world to me. I hope they don't mind, but I wanted to share a few of their great words of wisdom for anyone else who finds themselves in a stressed or overwhelmed state:

  • From David: "When you make room for yourself, you make room for other things/people in your life. Things/people that may actually help you relax more by doing less…which translates to less stress and more happiness. So remember to breathe.Some ways to put time back into your day:
    • Keep social networking, e-mailing and blogging to a bare minimum.
    • Surround yourself with people who energize you, but don’t try to compete with their energy.
    • Find something, and/or someone, that calms you at the end of your day. You need to get your stress out and you need someone to lean on.
    • Laugh more. Worry less. (And cuddle a Bulldog every night.)
  • From Ryan: "We all have times where it seems too much, but it's within those times that you find that second gear, or you quit.  Just like running your marathon, I'm sure you wanted to quit a few times in there, but you didn't, and you finished...The day we figure everything out is a sad day because that means we've stopped growing."
  • From Eve: "Just be selfish.  Take care of YOU, because no one else will.  At the end of your life, you will not regret any of the choices you make, as long as you listen to what you know is right.  And you do know what is right, you just may not know that you know it."
  • From Alex: "I handle stress/panic in a few ways. I have two people I call... they are like my lifelines. I also know to stop doing whatever is making me anxious, take a walk or just get up and move around, chug a bunch of water and take deep breaths. Yoga has helped a lot. I also allow myself to feel anxious or upset in the moment. I don't hold in my emotions. This has taken my entire life to learn, but if I need to cry, I cry. Something so simple makes a huge difference."
  • From my Dad: "Think of yourself like a great pyramid of Egypt with a very broad and strong foundation of love from many, many circles of family and friends.  There may be a bit of a dust storm at the top of this magnificent, bold and strong structure but it is composed of thousands of blocks of solid achievement on many many levels and in many many realms."
  • Thanks also to Stanley for reminding me about the 80/20 rule (for "ruthlessly cutting the fat"), Jason and Vidya for sending such helpful links, and to everyone else who reached out, commented, retweeted, or just sent brainwaves of happy thoughts!

Quote of the Week:

I'm a little embarrassed to admit that I subscribe to SIX daily quote newsletters. But they send out some gems from time-to-time that really get me thinking! This one is from Positive Quote of the Day:

"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." −Robert Brault

A Little Music for Your Weekend

If you like mash-up music (not just random catch-all blog posts), do yourself a favor and download Bootie's Best of 2009 CD (free). It's one of my favorite workout/dance CDs.

From time-to-time I also share random tunes I'm listening to on Blip.fm. It's another random Web 2.0 service I don't quite understand (Formspring, anyone?), but what the heck! If you're on there, add me :)

My Sandboxed Life

"Is the life you're living worth the price you're paying for it?" —Quote from a Managing Your Energy class I recently took

If you bear with me on a ridiculously technical metaphor, this post will count as two credits toward your Geek 101 terminology education.

I live my life in sandboxes. Not the kind you find at a playground or in someone's fancy backyard (though I'm sure there are applicable metaphors in those too). Sandboxes as in computer security. Huh? I said bear with me! I'll tell you what that means in a minute.

Universe (to Me): How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You?! Go to Your Room. And Don't Come Out Until you Learn to Slow Down

I had a moment two weeks ago when I threw my hands up in the air and literally shouted "What do you want from me Universe?! I'm listening!" On a random Wednesday after finishing a few coaching sessions, I suddenly found myself curled miserably on the floor of a conference room at work. There I was, lying on my back after almost fainting 15 minutes earlier. I felt like I was going to throw-up just from sitting up to pick up the phone to cancel my next meeting. Sexy, I know. Almost as sexy as the eye twitch I'd been rocking that week.

You can probably see where this is going. I was feeling overworked and my body was worn-out. Because I had done nothing to change that, my body and the universe had been (and maybe still are?) in cahoots to keep smacking me upside the head until I started listening.

I've felt this way before. After I posted "Motivated by Achievement: A Blessing or a Curse?" one friend emailed to tell me she had the feeling I was like a house of cards ready to crumble. Ouch! That hurt, but only because I had a feeling she might be right; her statement was something worth looking at.

So what is a sandbox and how does it relate to my life (and maybe yours)?

After reflecting on what it means to slow down (something I generally have no concept of or capability for), I realized that I live my life in a carefully manicured, structured, sandboxed existence. What is a sandbox? From Wikipedia:

In computer security, a sandbox is a security mechanism for separating running programs. It is often used to execute untested code, or untrusted programs from unverified third-parties, suppliers and untrusted users.

The sandbox typically provides a tightly-controlled set of resources for guest programs to run in, such as scratch space on disk and memory. Network access, the ability to inspect the host system or read from input devices are usually disallowed or heavily restricted.

If my life is like a computer, then my time and activities are like carefully sandboxed programs. Every aspect gets a set amount of resources, all separated and fenced in, not allowed to interact with each other. Everything has a place, and that place does not change from week to week. I have set times for working out, for eating meals, for working, for blogging, for walking my dog, and even for having fun.

Do you know when I give myself the freedom to have fun just for the sake of fun? Saturday afternoons. Weeknights (including Fridays) are for rest, Saturday nights are for friends, and Sunday nights are for work. It's exactly the same every week unless I'm traveling. And I wonder why I'm not dating! Apparently I left the dating sandbox out altogether.

Take me to the beach!

"At the beach, life is different. Time doesn't move hour to hour but mood to moment. We live by the currents, plan by the tides and follow the sun." −Unknown

I want more room to breathe. I want to loosen the reigns a little bit. I want to slow down, and even though I don't know how (and the thought of letting go of anything terrifies me a little bit), I want to.

I want to create more space in my life for ME. To just be me. And room for someone else to be there with me - without feeling like they are restricted to an assigned sandbox of my life.

I have no idea how to do this. But I'm saying it out loud. When it comes to slowing down and creating space, I'm committing to doing the best I can. Or not doing. I think that's actually the whole point.

Or as Andrew Norcross said, "instead of having a bunch of sandboxes, just go to the beach."

8 Ways to Organize Your Life with Google Docs

This is a re-print of a guest post I did last week for the Google for Students company blog. They're hosting a series of guest posts from Googlers who blog, and I was lucky enough to kick off the series! If you read Life After College regularly you've probably seen many of these templates already, but hopefully this will still serve as a nice re-cap. Important note: if any of the previews don't show up, you can still use the template. Google Docs has been picking some technical fights with me lately, and we haven't reconciled yet!

8 Ways to Manage Your Life After College with Google Docs

Life after college can be confusing and chaotic. As a veteran Googler, life coach, blogger, and productivity geek, it might not surprise you to know that I run my life with Google Docs. I’ve created templates to help organize almost every aspect of life after college, and I’m hoping they’ll help you get a handle on things too!

The great thing about using Google Docs & Spreadsheets is that they are easy to edit, accessible anywhere (any computer or your mobile phone), and you can share them with friends for added accountability and feedback. So without further ado...

1. Prepare for job interviews with the Job Interview One-Sheeter This template condenses nine key questions into a one-page "Cliff’s Notes" for your next job interview. Quickly articulate and refer back to your answers on nine key areas, including: strengths, goals, work-style, ideas, challenges you've overcome, questions for the interviewer and an answer to that dreaded "weaknesses" question.

2. Set career goals by creating a Professional Development Strategy To succeed in your career you need to take an active role in your learning and professional development. No one else will do it for you. This template will help you set a strategy around your professional development goals by walking you through three areas: Your Vision (short and long-term brainstorm about your desired impact, and what you want to do & have), The What (skills, knowledge, education, experience), and The How (quarterly benchmarks and resources).

3. Track conversations, professional contacts and potential mentors with the Networking Tracker Use this networking spreadsheet to track names of people you meet that you want have follow-up conversations with. The template eliminates the need to refer back to business cards - people's information is easily accessible online (and stored in one place). The tracker also makes it easy to skim through your list of contacts every few months and drop people a note if you haven't talked to them in a while.

4. Get your finances under control with the ever-so-simple Four-Step Budget Template Most budgets are too cumbersome to be useful (in my humble opinion). Check-out this handy four-step budget: After filling in income, must-have expenses and nice-to-have expenses, you'll get a "monthly allowance" for you to spend on discretionary items as you'd like, with the peace of mind of knowing that your main expenses are taken care of.

5. Have some fun! Dream big by creating a Life Checklist The principle of the life list is simple. You list all the things you want to do in life - big and small - then cross them off as you do them. This template will help you create a life checklist of your own. To see an example of my life checklist, click here.

6. Take an overall temperature check of your life with the Wheel of Life The Wheel of Life is a commonly used coaching exercise. It can help you examine each of the areas of your life and determine where you want to focus your attention. In this template the wheel is clearly a square :), and the cells automatically change color based on the values you enter (1-4=red, 5-7=yellow, 8-10=green).

7. Hold yourself accountable for strong health habits with the Fitness & Activity Weekly Tracker We all love checking things off a checklist, right? Use this template for tracking your weekly fitness activities (or anything else you want to track). You set the target goal for each activity (ex: run twice per week, strength training three times per week), and the spreadsheet will give you a countdown as you check-off various activities. It also totals your minutes per week, with a column for keeping notes and a place for tracking your weight.

8. Set-up a system for managing appointments with the Simple Appointment Tracking Spreadsheet If you do not have a place to keep track of recurring appointments (medical or otherwise), you will always be scratching your head trying to remember when you are next due – or forget about making the appointments completely. Set up a simple spreadsheet to track all of your recurring appointments and the relevant contact information in one place, then schedule reminders to actually make the next appointment one month before you are due.

I’d love to hear what you think after trying these - and please get in touch if you have requests for future templates!

Guest Post: Avoid Becoming a Health Cliche

Jenny's Note: This is a guest post from Matt Gartland, an awesome blogger I met at SXSW. Matt blogs at Healthy Lifestyle Design and Untemplater - and I love what he stands for. Matt's mission is to "make the world a healthier place by inspiring others to 'healthify' their lives....to help others design euphoric, meaningful, and remarkable lives through bold & uncompromising good health." I love it! So without further ado...

How to Avoid Becoming a Health Cliche (by Matt Gartland)

"There's no such thing as a free lunch." "Misery loves company." "All's fair in love and war."

Ah! Good ol' clichés - how we love them! But what is a "health cliché," why should you care about it, and how do you avoid becoming one? Fantastic questions! This is important stuff. So let's get some answers.

Clichés 101: A Crash Course

To comprehend a health cliché you should first understand the origins and evolution of clichés in general. Take this excerpt from Wikipedia, which I discovered via Seth Godin.

In printing, a cliché was a printing plate cast from movable type. This is also called a stereotype. When letters were set one at a time, it made sense to cast a phrase used repeatedly as a single slug of metal. "Cliché" came to mean such a ready-made phrase. The French word “cliché” comes from the sound made when the matrix is dropped into molten metal to make a printing plate.

This definition tells me that clichés are dull and unremarkable crayons used by those passionate about fitting in, detesting change, and coloring their blasé lives well inside the lines. But clichés aren't just boring. They're insidious promotions of broad generalities, narrow views, and tempered creativity. Alas, clichés reinforce the status quo and inspire many to be remarkably average. How lame.

So what is a health cliché?

Health clichés are potent propagations of these effects because they attack your most precious asset and energy source - your health. Here's how:

  • "I need to run a marathon to get healthy, and I don't like running."
  • "Becoming healthy is hard and expensive"
  • "My new year's resolution is to lose weight"
  • "I can't become healthy because I'm too busy"

Do you see the big picture tragedy here? The tragedy is all the people that sell their own health - and thus life - short because they believe in these pernicious and illegitimate health clichés.

Why should you care about health clichés?

Because we - those of you reading this - don't accept being unremarkable, being average, and being apathetic. We're bold, assertive, passionate, and tenacious. We're in the business of changing the world.

And yet, our monumental energy is typically applied to our professional careers, personal branding, income generation, networking, relationships, etc. We also haven't grown up in a society that has consistently and meaningfully advocated wholesome nutrition, the importance of regular fitness, and the adoption of wellness behaviors.

The result is profound - our collective health sucks. Please, don't take my word for it:

Our world is becoming less great because of our declining health. That's why we should all care. And that's where we can make a difference and change the world.

How do you avoid becoming a health cliché?

Good news! The secret to avoiding health clichés is dead-simple. As Seth Godin says, "The effective way to use a cliché is to point to it and then do precisely the opposite."

True, this Jedi mind-trick won't make you an overnight health sensation. But it will put you on (and keep you on) the path to becoming one. Want to see how this tactic works so effectively? Let's retaliate against the health clichés from above.

Health Cliché: "I need to run a marathon to get healthy, and I don't like running."

  • New Mindset: Running (especially a marathon) isn't the only way to get healthy. So, I'm not going to run and instead choose healthy pursuits that I enjoy - like hiking.
  • Practical Tip: Choose the physical activity you most enjoy and do that. Next week, do more of it. The week after, do even more, or add another fun physical activity. And invite friends and/or family to join in! (Note from Jenny: Try the Weekly Activity Tracker template to help with consistency and accountability).

Health Cliché: "Becoming healthy is hard and expensive"

  • New Mindset: Becoming healthy will be fun, liberating, and empowering when I define my own unique health plan. And being healthy isn't expensive because I'll reduce my unhealthy opportunity costs, reduce my food waste, and make smart buying decisions.
  • Practical Tip: Visualize and list-out all the life value you'll gain from defining and adopting a healthy lifestyle (e.g. I'll have more energy to spend with my kids or friends).

Health Cliché: "My new year's resolution is to lose weight"

  • New Mindset: My resolution today is to lose 8% body fat before July 4 and keep it off as part of my plan to design a unique, euphoric, and persistent healthy lifestyle.
  • Practical Tip: Specificity rules! Be clear, concise, and measured (e.g. dates & metrics) when setting your healthy lifestyle goals.

Health Cliché: "I can't become healthy because I'm too busy"

  • New Mindset: I will create and devote ample time to becoming healthy by eliminating busy work, minimizing my non-essential obligations, prioritizing my goals, and doing only what's important.
  • Practical Tip: Check your email less often, turn off auto-distractions, adopt regular media/technology fasts, delegate minutia, don't let people abuse your time, just life hack!

Great! Got it. What's next?

What's next is up to you. You're in control. You make the rules. You break the rules. You. And that's what designing a healthy lifestyle is all about. It's about you discovering the passions that inspire you towards greatness and designing a healthy lifestyle to get you there. Don't let health clichés get in your way.

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About Matt: Matt Gartland is a healthy lifestyle geek extraordinaire, blogger, world traveler, lifestyle entrepreneur, coffee fanatic, web techie, and more. He writes at Healthy Lifestyle Design (HLD), where he unleashes his passion for remarkable and unconventional living propelled by amazing health. Follow Matt on Twitter and join the HLD Tribe on Facebook.

Promotions: 10 Tips for Moving Up the Corporate Ladder

I recently had the honor of being the featured guest on ChaChanna Simpson's BlogTalkRadio Show, A Stellar Day with ChaChanna. The 45-minute show, "Movin' on up in your company," covers how to have promotion conversations, tips for moving up the corporate ladder, and common promotion pitfalls to avoid. Listen here, or for those of you who don't have the patience to listen to audio (like me!), I've summarized my talking points below. Summary of my key points - 10 Tips for Moving Up the Corporate Ladder:

  1. Don't just focus on promotion as an end in itself - It's like losing weight: you can either focus solely on the number on the scale or on getting healthy overall. Getting healthy has many more fringe benefits. Similarly, don't just focus on the promotion itself. Focus more on the competencies, expectations and behaviors that will lead to a promotion; you'll be better off in the long run and most likely get there faster.
  2. Build your career like a pyramid not a ladder (Carol Bartz) - Don't be afraid of horizontal moves. Focus on finding work that is soul-stirring (as Tim Gunn would say) and make adjustments along the way. Much better (for most people) to focus on finding work that is a great fit rather than just on getting promoted. Sometimes you have to make a lateral move, but if it leads to greater happiness and productivity, it's probably worth it in the long run.
  3. Have the right conversations - ask your manager: what does success look like? In 3-6 months, what would you love to see me doing? What should I be doing to operate at the next level?
  4. Be an observer - Pay attention to people who have been recently promoted or who work in the level above you. What skills, experiences and attitudes do they have?
  5. Save the entitlement - You may think you deserve a promotion (and you might be ready) but also be aware that much of the time people think they deserve promotions earlier than their managers might think so. Be willing to compromise and navigate this through open, direct conversations. Also remember that it often depends on many factors outside of your job performance alone (the economy, other people in the company, etc).
  6. Networking is key - Often there will be more people involved in deciding whether to promote you than just your direct manager. Try to get experience working on projects that involve other leaders within the company.
  7. Want a promotion? Ask for more responsibility instead - In many companies, you pretty much have to already be operating at the next level before you get promoted. Keep this in mind. Keep asking for more responsibility.
  8. Stand out - Make yourself indispensable by being proactive, having a positive attitude and being a flexible "team player." Come up with ideas, solve problems before your manager asks. Do what it takes to be their right hand.
  9. Don't sacrifice your sanity just to work toward a promotion - It's not worth it! You'll get angrier and angrier if the promotion doesn't come right away, but mostly because YOU are giving too much. Keep the balance and remember to have fun, even as you're trying to move up the ladder.
  10. Focus on impact, not just output - As you are taking on more and more responsibility, focus on delivering quality work that makes an impact. Be able to show that the work you are doing is improving the company in a material way (for example: increasing sales, making processes more efficient, making programs more effective).

What did I miss? Any other tips for moving up the corporate ladder?

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While you have your headphones on:

For those of you social media newbies out there, I also recently delivered a 40-minute webinar for People OnTheGo called "Accomplishing More with Less: 4 Social Media Tools You Don't Want to Live Without." I cover the basics of Google Reader, Delicious, TweetDeck and WordPress. Take a listen: Part 1 and Part 2.

Networking Awesomely: Get the Right Systems in Place

Today my friend Colin Wright of Exile Lifestyle launches his mega ebook - Networking Awesomely - and I'm excited to be a guest contributor! My excerpt is below (and includes the latest addition to my template family, the Networking Tracker). More about the ebook in Colin's own words:

"I propose a new kind of game, one that involves creating much stronger bonds, better social habits, a more fulfilling approach to life and a more valuable network. I’ll give you tips, tricks, philosophies and stories that will help you become a better networker.

Networking Awesomely is an ebook with over 250 pages and the cajones to get the job done – for the teensy-weensy price of $20."

To get your copy of Networking Awesomely, click here. Note: this is an affiliate link. All proceeds will benefit the Life After College cupcake consumption fund. :)

Excerpt (My Networking Tip): Get the Right Systems in Place

Networking is most fun when you can connect with people naturally, but it can help tremendously to have effective systems in place to support those connections. After I attend an event (skip to step 3 for people I meet online), I usually go through the following five steps:

  1. File business cards - Rolodex Schmolodex. I store my business cards in a regular-sized binder that has special sheet protectors with individual slots for each card. I suggest writing the context in which you met the person on the back of their card, and one or two physical descriptors.
  2. Identify people to follow-up with - At any given event, there are usually 2-3 people I want to get to know better. I plug their names into my networking spreadsheet (template here) - which tracks people I want have follow-up conversations with. That way I don't have to refer back to their business card any more - their information is easily accessible online (and stored in one place).
  3. Add follow-up names to my to-do list - One of my categories on my to-do list (I use Todoist.com) is called "Networking." I add tasks with the names and email addresses of people I want to schedule for a follow-up call. It may sound mechanical, but it really does help me remember who I want to reach out to.
  4. Schedule a call (via phone or Skype). This is the fun part!
  5. Send a follow-up email to say thank you (and make a note on my spreadsheet if we mentioned talking again at some point)

A final note on the networking spreadsheet: I don't add names of friends and acquaintances - it's more for business contacts and professionals in fields that I am interested in; in other words, people I wouldn't otherwise be in contact with on Twitter or Facebook. The nice thing about using it to track networking activities is that I can skim through it later and drop people a note if I haven't talked to them in a while.

Let me know what you think of the new template, and happy networking!

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The Book of Awesome Giveaway Results

Thank you all so much for the AMAZING comments on The Book of Awesome giveaway post - 60 people chimed in with some seriously awesome things! I had a huge smile plastered on my face as I read and replied to all of your great comments - they were are all brilliant. And big congrats to Eve (in South Korea) who won the autographed copy.

Celebrating The Book of Awesome (& Giveaway!)

Neil Pasricha describes himself as a "boring guy with a nine-to-five job," but let me tell you - he is much, much more. Neil is humble and incredibly kind, and despite being "just a normal guy" he landed himself a book deal after his blog, 1,000 Awesome Things, quickly caught fire after starting in June of 2008. I am so thrilled to celebrate the launch of Neil's book this week - and happy to announce that Neil will send one lucky commenter an autographed copy! Just share an awesome thing with us in the comments and we'll pick a winner at random. **Update: this contest is now over - congrats to Eve from South Korea who won!**

About The Book of Awesome:

In Neil's own words, "Over the past year the website grew into a warm place where people around the world came to curl up under a blanket and think about the small joys we often overlook. With so much sad news and bad news pouring down upon us, it's fun to stop for a minute and share a universal high five with humanity." Don't you just want to find Neil and hug him?! I do.  That endearing spirit, mixed with his great sense of humor and appreciation for the small things in life, makes Neil an absolutely AWESOME guy, and the same holds true for this book.

Some of my favorite "Awesome Things" from the book: Each one has a page of heartfelt, funny, well-written description and commentary

And finally, I'd like to add one of my own:

  • Seeing an AWESOME guy with a 9-5 job get a book deal from a blog that brings smiles to so many people's faces every day. Congrats Neil!

How to Win a Copy of 1,000 Awesome Things:

Please join me and Neil in adding to the awesome! To enter to win an autographed copy of the book, leave a comment with one of your own awesome things by the end of the day on Sunday. I'll pick a winner via Random.org early next week, then Neil will send you a signed copy of his book. **Update: this contest is now over - congrats to Eve from South Korea who won!**

You can also purchase The Book of Awesome on Amazon (a great gift, and it's currently 50% off!) and follow Neil on Twitter.

Click here (or press play below) to watch the book trailer - I loved this!

Video Post: Life is Like a Box of Cupcakes

While at Sprinkles Cupcakes today I couldn't resist but film a little video for you. In this video, I give thanks to my lovely readers (that's you, hot stuff), share my cupcakes-as-metaphor-for-life-and-side-projects wisdom, and disclose my amazing method for eating a cupcake so that you maximize the bliss in every bite. The video (click here if you don't see it below) is just under 3 minutes:

Want an extra laugh? Watch the (embarrassing) outtakes of me and my dad actually eating the cupcake (per my ingenious method).

While you've got your volume up...

I've had the great honor of being featured in several other places this month:

Blog Talk Radio - Lindsey Pollak interviews me for a segment called "Modern Day Moonlighting: Why Two Jobs May Be Better Than One" (~20 minutes)

  • Podcast Description: Today we're talking about the popular phenomenon among young professionals of working a full-time job and pursuing other projects on the side. Why are people doing this and how do you make it work? I'll be talking with Jenny Blake, who works full-time at Google and runs a coaching and blogging business, LifeAfterCollege.org, on the side.

Blogcast FM - Interview by Srinivas Rao (~45 minutes)

  • In this podcast, Srini and I talk about the following:
    • How I turned my post-college confusion into a successful blog
    • The intrinsic value of being a blogger
    • How to grow an audience without focusing on the typical marketing tactics
    • The no-pressure approach to starting a blog
    • The step by step process I used to find a literary agent
    • The numerous fringe benefits of sticking out in the blogosphere

Have a fantastic week everyone!

Memo: You Are Not Your Job

I find it easy to get buried in the busyness of work. Scratch that. I find it easy for my entire identity to get wrapped up in my work. Sometimes I don't even know who I am if not a Googler or a Blogger or a Coach or an {insert label here}.

I have a feeling I'm not alone. For those of us in the early phases of our careers, particularly without a spouse and kids, work is often where we spend most of our time, energy and attention. Within our jobs, many of us have managers, company objectives and performance reviews that influence us to adapt so that we fit into the broader team and organization. It's easy to lose our sense of identity and independence.

"We do not exist for the sole purpose of paying our bills"

Given that it's so easy to get wrapped-up in work, I often take time to repeat the following reminder to myself (and coaching clients): you are not your job. No matter how much you may love what you do (or not), you are a creative, interesting, independent person outside of what keeps you busy for 50 hours a week (and I'm sure many more if you include side projects).

Jonathan Fields captures this thought perfectly in the intro to his book, Career Renegade:

Much to the contrary of what we've been told for the better part of our lives, we do not exist for the sole purpose of paying our bills, grooming our kids to be able to do the same, and maybe, someday, retiring to finally enjoy life, should we ever reach that point.

We are here to let our lights shine as brightly as possible, to drink in the joy of friendship and family, to serve and better the greater community, and to tap into and inspire passion into everything we do. We are here to come alive. In doing so, we serve as an example to others that a life beyond muddling is not only possible, but mandatory."

Jonathan Fields

There's a person underneath all that "doing"

We all work for different reasons. At a minimum, our jobs help pay the bills. At best, our jobs also allow us to grow, learn, contribute, collaborate and feel fulfilled.

But even with all that - despite how much of your identity may be wonderfully shaped by the work that you do - don't forget this very important fact: you are not your job. You are an individual with your own ideas, aspirations, interests and insights.

Where might there be room to revisit those things that make you uniquely you outside of the work that you do?

Domesticating Jaguars: Let's All Learn from My Crazy Dream

The other night I had the most vivid dream. I was talking on my cell phone while at this dry, dusty, fenced-in dog park...but for jaguars. JAGUARS. A Peek Inside My Crazy Brain Dream:

There were a handful of other jaguar handlers standing around the perimeter of the park watching their giant felines, and I was chasing mine around while trying to carry on a conversation. I remember thinking, "Argh! How am I supposed to talk on the phone when my JAGUAR will not listen to me?!? Sit! Down Jaguar! Heel!" No luck.

My jaguar, daunting in size, kept running away from me and around the park as I tried frantically to get him to listen, all the while with my cell phone pressed against my ear.

You've Got To Know When To Fold 'Em

This could be a dream about multi-tasking, but really I think it is a dream about knowing when to quit (as Seth Godin says in The Dip). Put another way: stop trying to domesticate the jaguar. YOU CANNOT DOMESTICATE A JAGUAR.

I'm not even saying you should stop trying to "domesticate" people. I'm talking about doing things in general that just aren't working.

Recognize when:

  • You are barking up the wrong tree - trying to achieve something impossible or with diminishing returns - when that energy or attention could be better directed elsewhere.
  • You are doing too many things at once.
  • You are struggling with something that no matter how much you try, is only causing more stress.
  • A relationship (or job) feels forced, or you find yourself trying to make it work even when it starts causing both of you more harm than good.

Did you laugh when you read the summary of my dream? Because I did. Who in their right mind tries to domesticate a jaguar? Replaying the dream, watching myself chasing this wild beast around (while talking on a cell phone), made me chuckle. I got to thinking: in what areas of my life am I trying to domesticate jaguars?

And so I ask you: in what areas of YOUR life are you trying to domesticate jaguars?

As Kenny Rogers would say, "You got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em/Know when to walk away and know when to run." (From one of my all-time favorite songs, The Gambler).

Got any jaguars in your life? Or just plain crazy dreams you want to share? I'm all ears...

*** Mayo Clinic Book Giveaway Winner: As a follow-up to my last post, the Health & Fitness Resource Bonanza: congrats to EK for winning the Mayo Clinic book and journal giveaway!

Thanks to everyone for leaving such great health tips in the comments - I highly encourage others to skim through - they are super helpful!

Health & Fitness Resource Bonanza (& Mayo Clinic Book Giveaway)

Well, folks - spring is in the air! It's about time we ditch winter and leap into days full of sunshine and unicorns. No unicorns? Okay fine, let's get excited about the good weather anyway. The sun is shining, the days are long, and everyone seems to shed a few layers of clothing (guys rejoice: sundresses are around the corner). What does that mean? We can no longer hide behind bulky jackets, sweaters and leggings (click here for a good laugh) - our health and fitness habits are on full display. Health and fitness is an area I'm deeply passionate about, so today I'm sharing a few of the resources I've found most helpful (including two new templates!), and giving away another free book (and journal) from The Mayo Clinic.

First, a little background on my recent health and fitness history: Working at Google really is much of what it is cracked up to be, especially when it comes to food (we have 18 cafes just in Mountain View). But what they don't offer here is a class on "How to not gorge your face out because the food supply is organic, unlimited and comes with five dessert options at every meal, not to mention the snack rooms where danger lurks when restlessness strikes at 3 p.m. every afternoon." I gained AT LEAST 20 pounds when I started working here. You might have had the Freshman 15 in college, well I put on a generous Google 20 after I started working here four years ago.

Thankfully I've since lost that weight in the last year, but it hasn't been easy. I've read many books and learned the importance of portion control, healthy choices, and finding dynamic diet and exercise systems that work for me. I've learned that good health is a day-by-day journey (not a one-time destination), and that exercise is absolutely critical to keeping me healthy and happy. Below are many of the resources I've used - I'd love to hear what has worked for you too!

Fitness Templates It took me a few years of on-again/off-again fitness habits to realize that exercise is really where much of my baseline happiness comes from. If I don't exercise, I immediately notice I feel more stressed, less creative, and often sad and robbed of energy.

The templates below are how I keep myself on track - if you're like me, you know how good it feels to check things off a list and track progress over time. These templates are also great because you can share with a friend for accountability (each person gets their own tab). I'm especially proud of the Weekly Tracker - it has conditional formatting, boxes that change color automatically and countIF statements. Nerd alert!

(if you are reading via email or feed reader, click the links below to preview)

Weekly Fitness and/or Activity Tracker (great for checking off daily/weekly targets):

Triathlon, Half-Marathon and Full Marathon Training Schedules:

My Favorite Health & Fitness Resources

Mayo Clinic Book & Journal Giveaway

The Mayo Clinic has been generous enough to send me an extra copy of their book, The Mayo Clinic Diet: Eat Well, Enjoy Life, Lose Weight, and the accompanying journal to give away to a lucky reader! I haven't read it yet, so whoever wins the giveaway can join a mini book club with me to discuss. :)

Description: The Mayo Clinic Diet is packed with meal plans, tips for overcoming challenges, help in starting an exercise plan, and overall encouragement for success from the Mayo Clinic’s weight-loss and nutrition experts. The Mayo Clinic Diet emphasizes foods that are not only healthy, but also taste great. Part 1, the “Lose It!” phase, is The Mayo Clinic Diet’s two-week quick-start plan. “Lose It” is designed to help dieters lose 6 to 10 pounds in just 14 days. After dieters complete the “Lose It” phase, they move on to Part 2, “Live It.” This phase is designed to help dieters continue to lose 1-2 pounds each week until they reach their desired healthy weight. “Live It” offers a customized guide to using the Mayo Clinic Healthy Weight Pyramid.

How to enter: leave a comment with your favorite health tip, habit or resource and I'll pick a winner at random. I'm actually super excited about hearing all of your great health and fitness ideas - let's start this spring off right! **UPDATE: The drawing is now over (congrats to EK!) - but please feel free to still leave your health tips in the comments!**

Enough.

Note: This post first appeared on Life After College in December of 2008. I normally don't re-post, but the topic came up during a coaching call today and I felt compelled to share this post again (especially since many of you may not have seen it the first time). The bottom line: Enough with the voices in your head. Enough worrying about whether you measure up. I want to remind us all take a moment today to appreciate what we have and how far we have already come. We...you...are all enough. And then some.

Breathe in and say, "What I have is enough." Breathe out and think, "What I am is enough." Breathe in and say, "What I do is enough." Breathe out and think, "What I have achieved is enough." -Barbara Ann Kipfer

If I gave you a dollar for every time you thought yourself "not good enough" in some way, how much money would you have earned last week? Last year? In your lifetime?

From my observations, there are three kinds of "enoughs." Materialistic - money, things, possessions; Relationships - friends, family, significant other; and Personal - success, looks, smarts, etc. All of the examples in these lists could go on forever. And it's possible I'm missing a category entirely.

What seems a common thread to me is the (at times persistent) nagging thoughts that we all experience around the concept of "enough." I mentioned this briefly in my post titled "You Already Have Everything You Need," where the bottom line was to stop delaying your dreams or your happiness until some future state of perfection - that you already have all of the skills, resources and talent you need.

There's a lot of buzz in the personal-growth genre about the concept of being present. Books like Power of Now, Wherever You Go There You Are, and Mindfulness all point to the importance of being awake to your life. Enjoying the present moment because it's all you have. If you are constantly longing for the past of waiting for the future, your entire life will be spent - well, longing or waiting. Joy is fleeting if we don't stop to appreciate where we are now, and remember that who we are and where we are is enough.

So instead of waiting for the future - for some future state where you suddenly have enough or are enough, be the future. Live and embody it; act as though it were here. It is. There is no there, or better state. Make the most of this one - it is right where you should be - and the only place that's real.

Jonah Lehrer: Why We Travel

Jonah Lehrer, author of How We Decide, wrote a fantastic piece for Panorama Magazine a while back about the benefits of travel. He talks about the different states of thinking we engage in while moving, and the cognitive benefits of traveling and getting out of our daily routines. I LOVE the act of traveling for many of the reasons Lehrer describes; I do some of my best thinking, reflection, problem-solving and brainstorming while on moving vehicles - whether by bike, car, train or plane. There's something soothing, cathartic and almost meditative about getting quiet and watching the world zoom by; with nowhere else to be and nothing else to do, my mind feels free to just relax and do its best work.

My favorite excerpts of Why We Travel:

We travel because we want to, because the annoyances of the airport are outweighed by the visceral thrill of being someplace new. Because work is stressful and our blood pressure is too high and we need a vacation. Because home is boring. Because the flights were on sale. Because Paris is Paris.

...When we escape from the place we spend most of our time, the mind is suddenly made aware of all those errant ideas we'd previously suppressed. We start thinking about obscure possibilities that never would have occurred to us. Furthermore, this more relaxed sort of cognition comes with practical advantages, especially when we're trying to solve difficult problems.

...The larger lesson, though, is that our thoughts are shackled by the familiar. The brain is a neural tangle of near infinite possibility, which means that it spends a lot of time and energy choosing what not to notice. As a result, creativity is traded away for efficiency; we think in literal prose, not symbolist poetry. A bit of distance, however, helps loosen the chains of cognition, making it easier to see something new in the old; the mundane is grasped from a slightly more abstract perspective.

So let's not pretend that travel is always fun, or that we endure the jet lag for pleasure...We travel because we need to, because distance and difference are the secret tonic of creativity. When we get home, home is still the same. But something in our mind has been changed, and that changes everything.

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Speaking of travel, I am packing all my geeky tech & blogger gadgets (iPhone, Mac, Flip Cam, Moo Cards & Moleskine) and heading to Austin, Texas on Friday for the SXSW Interactive conference. I am so excited I can barely stand it! I can't wait to finally meet so many people I've known virtually through Twitter and blogging (some for over two years!) in person. If you are going and want to meet for cupcakes, coffee or a beer - definitely let me know (and/or follow me on Plancast).

Career Development for Gen Y: A Two-Way Street (Video)

I recently did a short 2-minute video for the upcoming Gen-Y Panel at SXSWi 2010Why Gen Y Wants to Work ‘With’ You, Not ‘For’ You (led by Ben Smithee, Elysa Rice, Nisha Chittal, Ryan Paugh, and Sydney Owen). In this video I talk about different ways people think about Career Development and give tips to Gen Y employees (and their managers) about how to have effective Career Development conversations. Bottom-line for employees: YOU own your career. No one else is going to do it for you. Bottom-line for managers: Take the time to check-in with your employees; schedule career development conversations at least 1-2 times per year.

Click here to open in a new window, or watch other great videos on the GenY panel website.

My Thoughts on Career Development for Gen Y:

What's important to you - as an individual or a manager - when it comes to career development (and career-related conversations)?

Miscellaneus March Updates

It's time for another Crock-Pot post (yes, I just made that up): sometimes I get hit with so many unrelated miscellaneous links, articles, and cool things to share that I decide to throw it all into a big stew and serve it up. Bon appetite!

Happy Thoughts - Delivered Daily

I'm a sucker for daily inspirational emails, quotes or thoughts. Three lists I've been enjoying lately:

  • The Daily Love - "Wisdom with Style" (Quotes on love and happiness)
  • Positive Quote of the Day (Short, simple email with a great thought to start each day)
  • TUT - Notes from the Universe (funny, wise and widely-known list)

I particularly appreciated today's TUT Note (thank you Ruth Ann for sharing it!):

"Of all the things that matter, Jenny, that really and truly matter, working more efficiently and getting more done, is not among them.

Chill, The Universe

And, quite accidentally, Jenny, such an appreciation leads to greater efficiency and more productivity. Not that that really matters."

Other great stuff around the web:

My Policy on Book Reviews - and Live a Life You Love: Book Giveaway Winner

I've implemented a new policy on this blog for book reviews (on books that others send to me, not ones I choose myself). In the name of transparency, I'm sharing it with all of you:

  1. I will only review books if I get two copies - one for me and one to give away to my readers; It's no fun if I'm the only one getting a free book!
  2. I will only agree to someone sending me a book in the first place if I find the description captivating. The book should meet at least one of the following criteria: useful/beneficial to me and my readers, related to topics I blog about, or fun/unique in some way.
  3. I reserve the right to decide whether to write a blog post on the book until after reading it (at which point I can discern whether a majority of my readers will learn or benefit in some way).
  4. Am I missing anything?

With that, I'm excited to announce that Clara is the winner of the Live a Life You Love book giveaway. Congrats, and thanks so much to everyone who commented to enter!

OK Go's AWESOME New Music Video - This Too Shall Pass

I leave you with one final pick-me-up: OK Go's new music video - it's colorful, playful, creative, and just pure genius. (Plus - the contraptions remind me of the booby traps from The Goonies, one of my all time favorite movies.) Enjoy!